Should you tell a co-worker after she shows you her wedding photos, you use to date her husband? (See details.)
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15 Answers to "Should you tell a co-worker after she shows you her wedding photos, you use to date her husband? (See details.)"
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Of course you should NOT!! She does not need to know. Would you like that YOUR co worker tells you that she had been sleeping around with your husband??
In french: "Mentir par omission" That is - Bad Truth hurts.Like (3)
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Absolutely not, and if he is a gentleman, if he saw you at a gathering he would not say a word, why would he? Be very careful about interjecting yourself into your co workers mental awareness as a woman that once dated her husband. NO! This disclosure would be a selfish act.
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You have a good point as well, I hear what you are saying ....I just feel like we all know our spouse use to date other people and if it was in the past...I feel like it should be understood and she should appreciate mmy honesty......only because I still speak with her at work..but seems there is a lot more no responses than yes
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Just trust me, I am 54 and twenty years ago I would have thought this was no big deal, I would have HAD to tell her, now I know better....and I raised two daughters....I know how women think.
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No one needs to know. It can be our little secret
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LoL hahah nice
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No, don't tell her anything.
This isn't anything that needs to concern her. I'm sure she knows she isn't his first, but she doesn't need to know who his past loves are.Like (2)
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I agree with grantmepeaceplease. When two "mature" chicks agree and share their impressions on this stuff....you should listen....we've leaned a few things. You won't "come off" as someone just concerned with being honest. You will come off as someone interjecting herself where she doesn't belong. An "unwanted" element, just trust me.
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No, it will just open a can of worms. You should not get closer to her. Im sure her husband hasnt said a word.
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do you want to stir the pot? You want to cause trouble. Deep-6 the urge to hurt this couple
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Next time she brings it up, you could say something. Just go with what comes when it happens. Who knows what could happen right? lol she could be a meanie, or would be eager to hear all the old stories about him :) Remember, she has only known him for the time that she has been with him, so it would be really cool to hear about who he was 10 years ago. I know if i ran into an old mates lover, i would be happy to know about him and how he is. A good length of 10 years is a good thing too.
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That's true, I know I wouldn't mind if it was in the past, but no everyone has the same outlook as we can see by the responses to the question, which I can understand their points as well and in no way am I trying to hurt anyone
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Blaah. In no way would u be trying to hurt her lol. The truth is the truth, and the more we as humans can attain, the more we can accept the world around us. I say go for it!
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better to tell her than have her find out by accident and think you have been deliberately deceptive. If you hide it and she finds out, she may think you still have feelings for him.
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this is part of my thought process, I have no intentions on hanging out with her, but it is a possibility, and that would suck being in that position, especially when I know there is nothing between us
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I have no idea how to handle that one. :-)
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Do you think he'd even remember you?
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Absolutely
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I guess you should tell her if there's a chance of him ever seeing you when she's around then.
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Oooooh ....it would be tempting, wouldn't it? But don't! Her husband might not have such flattering stories about you. Plus, you'll make her crazy.
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LoL, all good stories about me ....but yes I really wouldnt want to make her crazy and few response here suggest that might happen, but she has been with him about 10 years soo she shouldt be concerned right?
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Youd think so, but I think id keep picturing what you looked like ******* my husband when he was younger and hotter! ¢:
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What Woud the benefit be?
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Relieve a guilty conscience, I am a very truthful person I suppose and its not too often I find myself in a situation like this, and I suppose I just feel wrong not having said something, but i didnt feel right either at the time when she was showing me wedding photos, Hey I use to date him!
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Confession is only good for the confessor. There is NO need to confess. This is not anything you need to tell her. Unless there was something twisted and dangerous about him, that you think she should know, then keep it to yourself. Telling her would be a selfish act, not a noble one.
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No, unless the dating coincides with marriage. It doesn't, so no.
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I wouldn't unless you think somehow you'll be in the same place socially. Why make her crazy?
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Posted by Sellry Sep 23rd, 2012 at 10:01AM
If you think there is even a slight chance that you'll ever meet him in a social gathering through work or what have you, I think it's in your best interest (if you care about your relationship with her at all) that you come clean and admit to her that you used to date her husband. It could be already that she's mentioned your name in talking about work with her husband and he's already told her he used to date you. If there is nothing going on between the two of you now then you have nothing to worry about. Everyone has a past life before they met their current partner and she will be fine with it....it was over 10 years ago!
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