no i would marry again if she was just a genuine honest caring loving woman, thats all i want, why dont they seem to exist?
Everyone wants to date/marry someone attractive. That's everyone's first instinct when finding someone to date. They don't pick out the ugly person and think "I bet she has a great personality, and I could learn to be attracted to her in time.". They choose the person they'd like to **** that very evening.
Exactly! People that say looks don't matter, are naive or fooling themselves.
wrong i've dated someone who wasnt very pretty at all, but her personality (at first) was so amazing it just went from there
I'm sure she'd feel great knowing that you thought she "wasn't very pretty at all".
well i couldnt care less what she knows anymore just a b1tch like all the rest of them, go tell her if you like? lol
If that is how you refer to women, no wonder you lose them. But how do YOU act and treat them?
like all the rest that i've been out with, oh so what they are all good women now are they? you've been married & out with the same ones i've been with? i didnt lose every woman i have been with i chose to leave for various reasons, my original point was instead of looking out for a hot girl to just fcuk i actually meant personality meant more than looks, but then suddenly i get people sticking their noses in, suddenly this is so bad? if she was any good woman then i would of stayed with her, how would you know how i treat women? expert are you?
Wow. I ONLY asked a question, lolz.
glad you found it so funny ha ha ha, sorry i raised the point that we all dont neccesarily go out with a woman just for her looks, that personality meant more to me,
Beautiful girls...you can win her but by concidence she is beautiful and you are just an average guy and your personalities simply just match perfectly. IS VERY STRESSY. Other men will always chech her out, hit on her when your are not around...she won't cheat, but all these things will make you nervous and your blood pressure will go up until your veins hurt and...is an extremly unpleasant life.
I personally go for her character. I've had pretty beautiful and average girlfriends and my actual lover is more average than anyone, no one will hit on her and i love her personallity just so much...
Any human body can become sexy and attractive if you fall in love...you know the drill guys.
Not really, they date the most attractive woman because they are attractive. But if they turn out to be simple minded no fun to be with attractive they don't call for another date. If the pretty girl is all wrapped up in her pretty, then she is not really very attractive. Open minded women who enjoy all sorts of activities are the most attractive. Activities in both bed and outside should be diverse, if your looking for a husband, it's best to first find a friend and let the relationship developer naturally. Bowling alleys and nature groups are better than bars if your looking long term. Bars are fine if you just want to get laid.
Im not a guy but if I were a guy, I wont wish for a beautiful woman but rather hope that there is woman who will love and accept me for what I am and what I can afford to give. Beauty doesnt lasts forever but love does. What will am gonna do to beauty and a sexy body when I get 60's 80's and something. When Im old, all I need is my partners presence, love, care and understanding. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. its my opinion fellas xD
Only those whose sense of self-worth is tied up in something like that. If it's because she's loving to him, that's one thing, but if it's just about her looks that's terribly sad.
Attraction is a very powerful thing.
Attraction is very personal and quirky......guys like a lot of stuff about women! So, just keep yourself nice. Believe me, you'll float boats too. ; )
friends and other associates make fun of you openly if you're dating someone below your league... cuz I have, because of her personality... people used to call her ugly...
and everyone kept asking why do you date her, what do you see in her... I think there are many guys who want a better personality wife rather than a beautiful one...
no, we broke up.. she got crazy mad possessive.. I don't regret it... Our break-up lasted an year cuz she couldn't let go, and I am TOO patient too ^^
but still I would choose a person with whom I can have a decent conversation over just looks any day...
no, most men marry women who look like their moms
we're not all shallow
When considering human mating and pair-bonding, which is, genetically speaking, the single most important human behaviour to continue and evolve the human species, it helps to keep in mind that throughout human history, the average lifespan has only been ~35 years and half of all children usually die before the age of 5. "Long term" relationships for the longest time meant both parties died in their 40s, nothing like the aging we are capable of sustaining today. Men are genetically hardwired to seek out the most beautiful female in their area, it's a new phenomena that men and women have to consider they'll be alive long enough to sustain the relationship after both have aged drastically.
You should be aware that the "average" lifespan was 40 because many died in infancy. Add all those dead babies years on earth into the mix and the average age comes down quite a bit. The "mean" age of people who survived childhood was very often in their sixtys and seventys and they lived with the same mate for life so......yeah.
Sorry but no. I can understand how you saw that the "average" would be skewed by infant mortality, but that is the average of the surviving adults. Not really that surprising when you consider the biggest part of humanity has been lived out as hunter-gatherers out in the wild, not something a 60/70 yo can withstand. These have very much been the conditions under which the behaviours of human pair bonding has evolved.
"Humans have lived for an estimated 8,000 generations, but only in the past four have mortalities decreased to modern-day levels. Hunter-gatherers today have average life spans on par with wild chimpanzees."
Nice link. Granted. Grant me this: long lived marriages, when successful and many are, are extremely satisfying. The love gets deep, man. the experience and richness of this love....I wouldn't have missed for all the tea in china.
Oh I agree. A good marriage sets you up for a happy life no matter what. But good marriages are not plentiful anymore, and the divorce stats bear that out. Qualities of self sacrifice, duty, foresight over the next generation, so often associated with the "greatest generation" and has long gone out of favour. The "me generation", the consumer class is badly set up for marriage. In a lot of ways, we're reverting to less civilised, more savage times.
You've nailed it.....those qualities are learned. I learned them from my parents who have been married for over sixty years. They are extremely thoughtful of each other. If you want a happy marriage, find somebody whose parents have a happy marriage. They've seen how its done.
No; they all try for the ugliest;they have all been taken now so you have to unwillingly accept that it is only the 'Beautiful' who are available now. Pty.
I'm just going to say that it's a big factor for me personally. there's more chance of finding someone who is very physically attractive than there is of finding one who is highly intelligent.
Most would, young and older. But her looks will fade with time. Many do not consider that, especially the young bloods. If one marries for looks, the marriage has two strikes against it from the start. Good question.
Some guys would. Let's be honest, looks are what attracts us first and looks matter. But you also said....."more loving to him", so apparently she has other qualities he likes besides her beauty.
already been asked, try again
I don't... I want an intelligent woman and then her looks doesn't matter that much.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Some guys do, just like some women marry for money.
no sometimes were marry for money too