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He has been my best friend for over four years and knew I was attracted to females before, but he thinks it was just a phase. How do I tell him that I am attracted to only girls?
bubbleigh bubbleigh 18-21, F 21 Answers Jul 31, 2012

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Oh man ...<br />
Just tell him. :) <br />
I know it sounds hard, but just come clean c:

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Why would u date him if ur a lesbian.hes going to think he turned u into one

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Bring your girlfriend over and have a 3-way. Trust me, he'll power through it.

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You say he's aware of what he believes was only a phase, so tell him it wasn't.<br />
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He already knows you were wired to find other females attractive, he should have enough sense to understand we can't do anything about the way we're wired, we are either fully hetero or we are one of 6 billion other variations.<br />
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If we accept that no two people are the same, if we believe what the word INDIVIDUAL means, then we should have no problem accepting the 6 billion possibilities that make each of us the individuals we each are, and within that individuality will be our particular, one off, sexual orientation.<br />
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You are an individual, everyone else is an individual, they all want to be accepted for who they are, so there's no reason you shouldn't be accepted for who you are.<br />
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Just tell him the truth, if he's a real friend, an unconditional friend, if he has any kind of brain function, he'll deal with it, if he doesn't, he wasn't worth your loyalty and trust in the first place.<br />
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Be true to yourself and to hell with all the critics, lets face it, according to legend, there was this bloke who wandered about curing the sick, raising the dead, feeding the hungry, and how did society thank him? They nailed him to a cross and stabbed him in the guts. <br />
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This just goes to show no matter how hard anyone tries, there will always be someone who will be critical of them, so live your life to please yourself, because you'll never be able to please everyone.<br />
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Good luck.

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Uhmmmm, BF. I'm sorry but we can no longer be together, because I'm gay. That about sums it up

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straight up he knew the score so wont be devastating to him and even if it is there is little u can do to change your sexuality so best of luck hope u find happiness

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You just tell him. Try "I know you think it's just a phase, but I think we should see other people. I'm interested in females, and would like the chance to pursuit that, but I can't while I'm with you."

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lol.... I understand you. except im bi. what i suggest is that you break up with him. You dont have to tell him why unless you want to.

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didnt really pay attention to that part. Then just talk to him... he probably knows you very well by now and all you need is to start the convo somehow and then go with the flow.

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Why are you dating him then?

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Not during a sexual act

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You got to just tell him and break it off with him. <br />
Its not right to be dating the guy or pretending to be in a relationship <br />
with him if you are a lesbian. <br />
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Just tell him that you recently have confirmed to yourself that you are <br />
a lesbian and that its over between the 2 of you.

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Just tell him honestly and if he doesn't trust you on that then just break up with him and maybe he'll believe you

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Tell him you like females, that's it... tell him before it's to late and you loose him as both boyfriend and best friend....

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a ********* could be a gentle way to get girls back into the picture.

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There's no easy way to go about it. You just have to be up front and honest with him and hope for the best.

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Ok, without looking, I swear, you have to be 18-21

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Point?

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Ridiculous??????

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