im sorry im a lil tongue in cheek today (and most days) dont take me too seriously. i hope it all works out for you ;)
well thats good. i tend to just rampage with silly answers but wouldnt want to upset so thanks for saying =)
It is what it is.
Me too. You should ask him this question
Why don't you ask him
I believe that when a guy says that ur status is either "unofficially official" or "complicated" its just like saying that ur single.. He or she just wants the benefits of dating but not the commitment to being with just ONE person.
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Ok from a grown woman...here's the skinny. You are young. Don;t get caught up in labels and reading into what he says word for word. Huge mistake that women make. Might as well put a stop to that now and save yourself some major headaches. Men are NOT literal creatures...women ARE. Ok? If he wants more.....trust me he will say it. Right now you are just beginning. Don't over think. Get to know each and see if there's something there. Until you have that conversation....where HE brings up that HE would like to be more exclusive.....ASSUME NOTHING. Ok honey? This is just two people going out, getting to know each other and progress will take it from there. Don't need to worry bout labels or hidden meanings. That's not what makes a relationship....the people do. This is exactly what I would tell my daughters. So easy to get caught up in a whirl wind. Bring yourself back down so you can enjoy it....
Anticipation...it's chemical and what comes next is the crash of reality. Hard road. So what you want to do is be real with yourself. He's just a new guy. All shiny and new yes...but he's just a person. don't give him the power to make or break your happiness. No one wants that. Trust me.
As far as the sex is concerned....you set the bar now for how he will treat you later. Sucks because I know your hormones are going batty as well. But you MUST be a LADY. When he crosses the line, say do it again and we won't be seeing each other any more. You need to respect me and my body. I need to get to know you before I decide if you deserve to have that side of me. Respect is respect. Are we clear on that? And if you have something real...he will only appreciate you more for it. Less in the clouds and more for real....
Wouldn't know your already gone farther than I have in my entire life.
Thanks. I know. But taking a second look at your question... I think all it really entails is that your interested in eachother and there will be more dates.
After a first date? I'd say it must have been a very intense connection, and if you feel that he might be someone you want to see on a long term basis, then you're moving in the right direction. Making him your boyfriend might be something to decide after dating him exclusively for a while. To some people, titles are everything. If you want it to mean something, get to know him and let it happen organically.
Don't put a label on things at all-- ever. "Unofficially official"? "Boyfriend and Girlfriend"? "Pimp and Hoe"? Don't sweat it, just enjoy one another's company.
On a side note, if neither of you trust eachother enough to talk to the members of the opposite sex without breaking up, this relationships is doomed to fail already. You need space, and more than one friend to talk to.
Hope this helped!