Someone help me please =(?

I feel really crap!
Ive been seeing someone for 4 months, first few weeks we're always text, happy & always talking...things are getting crap, less texts etc. When we're together, it all feels right. We agreed that it would be just sex, he told me that he really likes me, but when i told him i liked him more & i know he doesnt like me as much as i do with him. He said he cant help it....
All i do is think negative about things, i get paranoid worrying about him. His status said "mmm...shorts and leggings"..1st thing that came to my mind was him with another girl. He tells me he hasnt bothered with any other girl, but i dont know if i can believe him. I care about him too much and i want to try not be paranoid...but how??
Sorry if this all sounds too stupid, but it's all i keep thinking about =(

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I think you will be alright,...you did the one thing wrong. Most young women get into this kind of agreement because they tell themself's that they don't like them that much. But you do...now you have to relize that when you are with someone for sex that is all they really want.Don't be to hard on yourself.There are worst thing you could do...just act like you could care less...man can't stand it!

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Angeleyes777	Posted Oct 12th, 2009 at 10:51AM I have just been through this with someone only i made it clear from the start that it was just friends and nothing more was ever going to happen as he kept implying that he like me more. I had to finish the friendship after only 3 months cos he told me he was in love with me. My advice to you sweetie is move on and forget him, cos he will never be able to give you what you want. You are letting other opportunities pass you by. Good luck!! Rated: +3Vote for this!
shugabooga	Posted Oct 12th, 2009 at 10:49AM ah, welcome to the world of relationships! unfortuntely they don't always go how we want and we suffer lots of pain. if you are miserable, it may be time to move on. try giving him his space for a few days and see if he comes around. if he doesn't, then tell him again how you feel and see how it goes. you deserve to be happy and loved and if this guy doesn't want a relationship, find someone who will treat you right. Rated: +2Vote for this!
londongothgirl	Posted Oct 12th, 2009 at 11:25AM Sorry to have to be blunt, but you agreed to a sex only relationship, so what do you expect? If you don't want only sex with him, then you need to find someone else as he obviously doesn't want more than sex with you. Rated: +2Vote for this!
aminleb	Posted Oct 12th, 2009 at 11:25AM Seems he's respecting his side of the deal, you're not. you are the one doing harm to yourself so, get on or get off, either you stick to the original deal, or you leave, but don't hope for more eitherway. Good luck Rated: +2Vote for this!
ZombieKitty	Posted Oct 12th, 2009 at 11:25AM Why all the stress and worry over someone who is just for sex? If you couldn't hold up your end of 'just sex' you shouldn't have started it in the first place. Why do women always hold the fantasy that the man will fall in love and it will turn into more. Most of the time when a man says just sex, that's all he means. Sorry hon. Rated: +2Vote for this!
Greg862	Posted Oct 13th, 2009 at 1:57AM He's seeing other girls...hence the leggings message. Did u expect him to tell the truth? You have no relationship. He does not owe u any explanation or fidelity. You agreed to that...sex "ONLY." I think it sucks for you but that IS what you agreed to. If you are no longer happy with that arrangement, then dump him. He's already showing you a very casual and cool reaction...show him the same or find another guy...but remember...sex is sex...nothing else. Not "who else are you seeing, etc." Rated: +1Vote for this!
yankit	Posted Oct 12th, 2009 at 10:13AM never believe a guy that only wants you know what...he'll only hurt you. go on to the next trauma Rated: +1Vote for this!
nivek191	Posted Oct 12th, 2009 at 10:14AM first off you based your whole relationship on sex, to have a good relationship it must be built on much much more than that, first off start with trust, then respect, then go from there, Rated: +1Vote for this!
Quagmyre	Posted Oct 12th, 2009 at 10:16AM you said you agreed that it would be just sex? ...sounds like you want more and your not happy with just sex. But that probably all your gonna get. Stop having sex with him and see what happens then, maybe then you will get more of what you want from him. Rated: +1Vote for this!
frfeve	Posted Oct 12th, 2009 at 10:23AM dump the *****!!!!! Rated: +1Vote for this!
Ihatethemtoo	Posted Oct 12th, 2009 at 10:37AM There's several possibilities: 1. He feels you're trying to move the relationship too fast for him. 2. He still cares about someone else, and hasn't gotten over the pain of that loss. 3. He's just not that into you. No matter how much you care about someone, you can't "make" them fall in love with you. It either happens for them, or it doesn't. When you agreed to entering into a relationship that was "just sex" you kind of set yourself up for heartache. I personally would never make such an agreement. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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