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Someone I trusted lied to me about something that directly affected me, but they did it because they thought it would help me do better for something. Maybe it did, but I felt awful when I found out. Should I forgive them? It was a little harsh the way they told me that they'd lied, but it had good intentions.
C3C3C3 C3C3C3 13-15, F 11 Answers Feb 10, 2013 in Health

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Sure, if you want lied to again. It doesn't matter if their intentions were "good" you know what they say about "good intentions." Plus, they obviously thought that THEY knew best, and they had such little regard for your trust, and their own word, that they broke it, so screw them. (I speak from experience, the same thing's happened to me, and the guy thought he was in the right, and he's screwed over other friends, and family since he lied to me.) A person is only as good as their word. If they break it, then there's no point in being around that person anymore.

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This situations a little different. I understand the broken trust thing, but this person lied so that I would do better at something I really wanted to succeed in. It worked I guess, but when I found out it felt bad.

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Yea, I guess I'm a little biased, 'cause in my case the dude just betrayed me. Maybe your guy did help you out, but everybody knows that being lied to sucks, and it's pretty douchey to do it. Maybe "Forgive, but don't forget," lol!

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Yeah. Maybe.

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Thanks! That's how I was raised, and that's how I've thought my whole life. I have my vices, like everyone, but dishonesty, and betrayal isn't one of them, thankfully.

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You have to... hardship will make you bitter or better. Bitterness is poison to your spirit. It may take time to work through the hurt, but keep going until you can get to forgiveness. It will be worth it!!

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Forgive them. You should no longer trust them.

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And you have never lied? yes...forgive them. If it had been a vindictive lie to hurt and cause you pain. Then I would not have them as a friend.

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I have lied, but not to cause pain. The thing is that it wasn't really a "friend" as such, the relation was different. But I did trust them.

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Well if they have admitted to you that it was a lie.
I feel that you have even more reason to forgive them.

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They told me in a way that was a little bit harsh, but I guess it was better they told me. Maybe you're right.

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I see the point you're making, but a lie, (like, "No, Mom! I didn't eat the last cookie!) and betraying a trust, or a confidence are two completely different things. Betrayal, there's no excuse for, really.

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It depends on her circumstances....I'm sure she will decide for herself what the best course of action is in regards to the person who lied.
I am not about to project my experience's with others that have lied to me. We all make our own judgement and choices about things at the end of the day. So be it.

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Yep. That makes sense.

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:)

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The real question is whether you can believe what they say from now on. If not, then what is the point in conversation at all?

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Well, yes. I have to interact with them, I don't have the choice, but I just feel really bad about it.

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