Someone lied to me. Do I forgive them?

Asked By: C3C3C3 13-15, F 3 months ago

Someone I trusted lied to me about something that directly affected me, but they did it because they thought it would help me do better for something. Maybe it did, but I felt awful when I found out. Should I forgive them? It was a little harsh the way they told me that they'd lied, but it had good intentions.

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Posted by Rivfader Feb 10th, 2013 at 8:16PM

Sure, if you want lied to again. It doesn't matter if their intentions were "good" you know what they say about "good intentions." Plus, they obviously thought that THEY knew best, and they had such little regard for your trust, and their own word, that they broke it, so screw them. (I speak from experience, the same thing's happened to me, and the guy thought he was in the right, and he's screwed over other friends, and family since he lied to me.) A person is only as good as their word. If they break it, then there's no point in being around that person anymore.

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Reply by C3C3C3 Feb 10th, 2013 at 8:19PM

This situations a little different. I understand the broken trust thing, but this person lied so that I would do better at something I really wanted to succeed in. It worked I guess, but when I found out it felt bad.
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Reply by Rivfader Feb 10th, 2013 at 8:25PM

Yea, I guess I'm a little biased, 'cause in my case the dude just betrayed me. Maybe your guy did help you out, but everybody knows that being lied to sucks, and it's pretty douchey to do it. Maybe "Forgive, but don't forget," lol!
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Posted by LivingDavid Feb 10th, 2013 at 8:15PM

You have to... hardship will make you bitter or better. Bitterness is poison to your spirit. It may take time to work through the hurt, but keep going until you can get to forgiveness. It will be worth it!!

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Posted by Freestanding Feb 10th, 2013 at 8:21PM

Forgive them. You should no longer trust them.

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Posted by DominanceMaster Feb 10th, 2013 at 8:17PM

Forgive

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Posted by Kadie101 Feb 10th, 2013 at 8:15PM

And you have never lied? yes...forgive them. If it had been a vindictive lie to hurt and cause you pain. Then I would not have them as a friend.

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Reply by C3C3C3 Feb 10th, 2013 at 8:20PM

I have lied, but not to cause pain. The thing is that it wasn't really a "friend" as such, the relation was different. But I did trust them.
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Reply by Kadie101 Feb 10th, 2013 at 8:23PM

Well if they have admitted to you that it was a lie. I feel that you have even more reason to forgive them.
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Posted by dskdw25q9n Feb 10th, 2013 at 8:15PM

The real question is whether you can believe what they say from now on. If not, then what is the point in conversation at all?

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Reply by C3C3C3 Feb 10th, 2013 at 8:21PM

Well, yes. I have to interact with them, I don't have the choice, but I just feel really bad about it.
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