Soppy Question Time!! Ex Boyfriend Contacted Me Out Of The Blue, Details In Description,
My very first boyfriend and I broke up after a very long time of being together. It was an emotionally abusive relationship, and a lot happened with us but he cared. He truly loved me and proposed to me after about a year. I broke off the engagement and cut contact with him and started dating my now fiance. Today, my ex sent me an email out of the blue, joking and telling me to talk more to him. He's doing well, finished school, working, tattoo and a girlfriend. He's asked for my number, but he's moving back to his home country. The breakup tormented us both for a while, why is he still contacting me? What should I do? How do I react? What do you think he wants? If you need more detail please ask. Thanks.
8 Answers to "Soppy Question Time!! Ex Boyfriend Contacted Me Out Of The Blue, Details In Description,"
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You're best solution is to be straight forward with him. I highly would advise steering clear of him since he was emotionally abusive to you in the past. Don't let his fake nicey-nice act manipulate you. It's all a game that my ex played on me and I fell for it and well caused me a lot of heartache in the end.
You are engaged to someone else, right? Then the hell with your ex. He is an ex for a reason and the way it sounds is that he is trying to keep tabs on you. Make it clear that he has no chance with you. Don't give him your number or any way of truly contacting you. Trust your gut, and don't let him pressure you.
It's times like these that we have to grow a backbone and if he won't back off the nice way, then it's time to get a restraining order.Like (2)
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Thanks.
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leave it alone and dont contact him you awnsered your own question ,especially if it was abusive relationship
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A tattoo? That would be enough to say no thanks. Move on, he is an ex for a reason
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How does ur fiancé feel about this?....or how fo think he'll react then make ur move as to talk to the ex or not
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He hates my ex. He's a bad person. Manipulative, I suppose. Problem is i just don't even seem to see it when he talks to me. I'll let him know when he gets home, see what he thinks i should do. The responses on ehre have been really helpful. :)
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Good luck and brace urself
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If it was an emotionally abusive relationship,I would not care what he wants.
Tell him to leave you alone and be done with him.Like (1)
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I'm honestly trying to, but I don't have the guts to tell him to back away. He asked for my number, I didn't give it to him. It seems like he wants to stay in contact with me but why is what I wanna know.
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Sounds like a manipulative relationship, where he knows exactly how to push your buttons. Don't give him your phone number. He can use a reverse lookup to discover your whereabouts with that information alone.Like (1)
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You said abusive right? That answers it in my book. As for his motives, no idea.
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Hmmm. If you said fk him, that would be one thing. But you do seem to be reacting to it. Sleep on it and ask yourself again.
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The thing is that I don't THINK I have feelings for him. I'm not sure. I definitely don't want what we had back because it destroyed me and turned me into a bad person, but I just don't understand why he's talking to me again after months and months. Showed me his new tattoo, told me all about his great new life without me, rar rar rar.
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I don't know then. Maybe he's stalking you.
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Posted by dskdw25q9n Nov 26th, 2012 at 8:09PM
Don't feel like you owe him politeness. If you don't wish to reconnect, then be abrupt. This is to destroy any fantasy in his mind that he still has a chance with you. Leave no room for misunderstanding. Then if he persists after the warning, you have a stalker. I also wouldn't trust his innocent pretense for contacting you. Because you haven't communicated with him in so long, you really cannot know from his words alone what he has been up to.
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Reply by ThisIsMediocritiesOldAcc Nov 26th, 2012 at 8:09PM
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