The art of the apology. What do you say when you have to offer an apology?

Asked By: someonegotmyname 51-55, F 4 months ago

I say, "I owe you an apology for ______. I want to tell you that there is no excuse for it, and I'm truly, sincerely sorry."

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Posted by MsTarantism Jan 3rd, 2013 at 11:37AM

It highly depends on a situation. Apologies really are an art- i never saw it that way. They really are magical- aren't they. They can do so much for a relationship- it is absolutely unfathomable.

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Reply by LucilleLucilleLucille Jan 3rd, 2013 at 11:59AM

You are so right.
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Posted by LucilleLucilleLucille Jan 3rd, 2013 at 11:58AM

It varies depending on what I have done.If I bump into someone accidently,a simple "Pardon me" is what I will say.If I have done something to cause someone pain,I will elaborate because rote apologies in that case are for the weak minded and insincere.
When I apologize,I mean it and will tell them why,simply by empathizing with them and letting them know I understand how I hurt them and that I am remorseful.

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Posted by brooklynbound Jan 3rd, 2013 at 12:42PM

Personally, I find talk to be cheap. Mostly because I grew up in dysfunction. My norm is not someone else's norm, and there's isn't mine. However, I have an instinctual human capability of knowing right from wrong. So if I have wronged someone, I knew it was wrong before I did it, so I can make no excuse or it isn't an apology. Apologies, also, though they can make an impact, need to be followed with an amends of some sort. That's where it can be tricky and case specific. In the end, I do this for myself, because I value my relationships more than my ego (or at least try) and whether the other person accepts it or NOT I will continue to grow and be at peace.

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Reply by brooklynbound Jan 3rd, 2013 at 12:44PM

their's not there's... lol shame on me. I apologize. ;-)
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Posted by Soul1958 Jan 3rd, 2013 at 12:19PM

Schedule a time to me, saying that it's something important to You; explain to them when You meet together why You have to aplogize and how You feel, that You were wrong in doing what You've done, and how You may think the man or woman may feel because of what You've Done. The tell them how sorry You really feel and prove to them it WON'T happen again, and that You've learned a lesson in the risk of possibly losing a Friend or Family Member because of Your Actions. There are works of kindness You can also do to help make him/her feel better and know that they can trust You again. God Bless You + i Hope You do the Right Thing . <><

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Posted by lederman Jan 3rd, 2013 at 11:54AM

sorry

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Posted by Wyt9041jgh Jan 3rd, 2013 at 11:53AM

Admit your error and express your sincere regret for it.

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Posted by Dan193 Jan 3rd, 2013 at 11:44AM

I should write that down for myself.

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Posted by themarvelousme Jan 3rd, 2013 at 11:37AM

Never attempt an excuse, provide a solution.

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Posted by steppingup Jan 3rd, 2013 at 11:37AM

90% of communication is body language, 10% is the blah, blah, blah. I find it helpful to be honestly sorry before opening my mouth...they can see my apology before the words come out.

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