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The "right time" for guys, when/why does it happen?

Does it happen when you find a woman that's adequate enough for you, or it happens when you get sick of searching, or... ?

And what if a woman comes along that's "more adequate"--does that mean you'll go with her, or stay with the woman you picked first?

Note: I'm just trying to understand how guys see relationships. I've been told that men settle down with whomever they're with when they're ready to settle down--the woman in their arms at that time just happened to be the "lucky one".

I'm trying to figure out how true this is.

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Does it happen when you find a woman that's adequate enough for you, or it happens when you get sick of searching, or... ?

I think as a matter of convention a lot of people use the "he'll do/she'll do," justification for a relationship, though men are more likely to just hook up with girls, if there's no one they find exceptional.

And what if a woman comes along that's "more adequate"--does that mean you'll go with her, or stay with the woman you picked first?

Guys who are in a relationship just because they hate being alone will have no trouble moving on if they see a chance, even if it's just for a change of pace. Guys who are in a relationship with someone they think is exceptional will usually try to make it work with the first girl before they go looking elsewhere.

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EricS	Posted Dec 6th, 2008 at 3:45PM If she is what I want(ed): then even if someone else came along, I am good to go with the first one. Another broad is just that. A little loyalty to me is nice. So, I like to return the favor. Have not found that loyalty much lately, but wish me luck? :P Rated: +2Vote for this!
overman	Posted Dec 7th, 2008 at 5:39AM For a guy, "adequate enough" means she is capable of causing an erection. The "right time" for a guy would be when said errection occurs. We are simple beasts really. Rated: +1Vote for this!
SeraphicWannabe	Posted Dec 6th, 2008 at 3:46PM It's when you meet someone who feels your rhythm Rated: +1Vote for this!
1dogtrainer	Posted Dec 6th, 2008 at 3:47PM I'm not quite sure what you are asking exactly. Describe: "adequate enough". What are you comparing that to? No one wants a person who is inadequate. Why would a guy or girl believe that someone is "right" for them when they are "sick of searching"? I believe you are wanting to know when will you know if someone is 'right' for you. Correct? If so, there's more to it than just deciding if that person is "adequate enough for you". It would depend on what your expectations are and what you are willing to 'settle' for if anything. If your expectations are too high then you will never find the 'right' person to fall in love with. On the flip side, if you set your expectations too low, you may end up with a person who will disappoint you. I believe you should follow your heart and don't act impulsively. Get to know a person well before deciding if they are 'right' for you and you are 'right' for them. Rated: +1Vote for this!
bunnydrop	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM the righttime is when it is.that to me is when you are totally sexually compatablie with the person.pretending an hoping arent enough for the long haul.they gotta be the one the only.the ultimate.an yes if you do get it wrong u will an should choose the correct person,evn if one gets hurt.best to take your time an not rush an get it right.sex/living toghter before marriage for at least 4 years is a must.time is always the solution.from twice divorced cods i got it so wrong.maria x Rated: +1Vote for this!
Idea	Posted Dec 6th, 2008 at 3:48PM It will happen when it happens. And when it happens you'll be very happy. Sex is only a bonus, can't actually base any kind of relationship on sex. It doesn't help with trust. Learn to love the person for them rather than what you can do for one another. The only thing I can really say is that in this case patience is a virtue. Rated: +1Vote for this!
sothisisme	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM i hope it isnt a matter of settling for a guy..... as for me i new it was the right time when i found the person that not only knocked my socks off but that i was willing to be 100% commited to making it work... every boyfriend i have looked at before i have thought " ahh i could get another if not better one of you" as for when i look at my husband i think " ahhh i wouldnt want another one ( meaning guy) or want to find a better... because for me we are a good match... yes i wanna kick his head off at times but in most relationships in our lives we feel that way from time to time its normal we are human ... we have all been mad at our mothers or fathers best friends ect. i dont think that men should just settle because then you are leading on the girl who might really truely love you with a full heart.. and if you cant give her the same you dont deserve her Rated: +1Vote for this!
lilyiam07	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM We need more guys to respond to this question cuz they CAN answer it better. It can't all just be sex............. Rated: +1Vote for this!
IndyJoe	Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM Contrary to the popular belief, guys often want the same things in a relationship that women do. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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