The only thing I know is you two failed to read between the lines when you exchanged mails. I don't think creating other profiles is a crime (although one profile is enough for me) , it shows people need an anonymous place. <br />
That being said, I imagine there are other issues at stake here, and definitely different expectations.
I am me and friendship is with that person not another. I cannot be blamed for not being Saint Peza or whoever and no disrespect intended. Just myself and if that is not good enough after 5 years move on. I do with great sadness and regret.
Every relationship is different indeed, people are attracted to each other for a reason.
Maybe it's the only relationship he wanted.
Long-distance support. For 5 years, if you believed in him, I guessed he may have helped you too?
It does happen, often people don't mean to destroy you, they function differently.
Yes, it's one way of functioning.
Possessiveness can be the opposite of love too, it's all a matter of boundaries.
I'm not defending anyone, here. The point is not for me to declare anyone guilty, or evil. You had a relationship with that person, and now you only see the lie in them. What I do is try to understand people's behaviours, it's part of healing and it's part of an attitude towards peace.
Well, it looks a bit like it, though! But, I do see you're very upset, this is why I would rather adopt a peaceful attitude, you are in the middle of an emotional maelstrom, while I am just an observer and a friend that hopes you will overcome the hardship.
It's not just hopes, you will get over it. I do think healing means being able to see the whole story, not just the hurt.
I don't know the lies you're talking about. Anyway lies are ways of copping out, people are escaping some reality, what reality? yet again, I don't know.
Just as well you should know now.
I think we should all take such declarations with a pinch of salt.
EP is what you make of it. You just can't take sites like this so seriously. Internet "friends" are mainly just acquaintances. Until you know someone in real life .. face to face, you really don't know if they're who they say they are. You're not "stupid" .. just hoping that everyone is upfront and honest about themselves. Sadly, on the internet, it's not a good idea to be so trusting.
Don't feel that way LG. You did it from a sincere place in your heart. He's the one who should feel badly that he took advantage of your friendship and kindness. I have a feeling you're probably not the first one he duped like that.
Even though it's difficult for you .. so much better to find out now and not waste any more of your time and energy on him. Karma will deal with him .. I'm sure.
You're not stupid just trusting not your fault.
this is a little creepy. I am here! I have been a good and true friend.
I have 3 profiles on ep and am proud of them all. Nothing to be ashamed of and it is not creepy. Please either be my friend or leave me alone. This makes no sense.
what would you have me do? I would be your friend still but you chose not to trust me. Fair enough. I believe I am trustworthy so why not just leave it at that. I changed profile twice to give you space. Yet you found me again. just block me and have your space please.
There are plenty of nice people here...chin up, move on :-)
That's sad, sorry to hear... Its ok though you are better off without the hassle. Don't let it get you down :-)
and still writing even here in what feels like a courtroom
@lacelestine maybe you should leave her alone right now, it's obvious she is upset
I did and set up an new gender unspecific profile and minded my own business. what of my feeling upset?
sometimes people have misunderstandings...If it were me I would let well enough be right now and try to patch it up later ok? this isn't helping things
I've had the displeasure of running into a few that have had secret discussions with others sharing confidential and personal information and then lied to me about it.
No worries but thank you. RL friends are often challenging and personally it don't think you can make a real friend without a face to face.
None of its been worthwhile.
No, it doesn't make you stupid.
cheaters are there
I am no cheater. This is not fair.
Sorry to hear that. The depth of human cruelty is beyond belief at times. But there are a lot of good people here!
I am not part of it. This is cruelty beyond measure.
So what r u accused of? Having more than one account? As long as u havnt used those other a ccounts to screw with people who cares.
yes that's about it plus not agreeing to have an offline relationship. I am aware of my own limitations and so set boundaries which are not meant to be cruel but have been perceived as being controlling. A person has to know his limitations and I have not been ready for an offline relationship despite 5 years of online friendship. It is hard I do understand but still I am who I am and nobody gains from a a step too far.
Unfortunate but that's how it is with life, you get the bad and the good here and there. Still some good people around.
Oh man, 5 years is a long time! That being said, you are now smarter and wiser for it. You'll be okay :)
I am and have been a true friend always. Even now with this I am.
I am your friend. Not stupid just mistaken. I do not do what you fear.