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Posted by Handed Aug 22nd, 2012 at 7:58PM
I'd say rather that you don't get over it, you get through it. Meaning you can't go over or around the feelings, the only way is to go through them. Best helps are being able to tell your feelings to someone who listens and understands because they have them too - support groups. Also let out the repressed anger in ways that help others and hurt noone. Such as volunteering to association that helps survivors for example. I still haven't quite figured that one out.
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Posted by NewAccountComingSoon Aug 22nd, 2012 at 7:16PM
There are good days, and than there are bad days. lots of therapy helped me and a great supportive friend who helped me.
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Posted by echoscall Aug 22nd, 2012 at 6:58PM
Hi , if your asking forget it , no but most of the time now I live a fairly normal life , a few nightmares here and there , a few reactions to things said or that I see are still extreme sometimes. My husband had a jury appointment for a case that involved molestation , that was the closest it has come to me in the past 10 or 15 years ,
Is still there and I am changed , but much of life is now good.
It fades a little over time , and you recover
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Posted by ashleymartin123 Aug 22nd, 2012 at 6:36PM
Yeah, I don't think I ever really got over mine, but I was molested more than once by more than one man. I think it is more of a way of coping- or maybe for me, just trying not to think about it. One time there was a program on tv talking about molesting and rape a few months ago and I was with my boyfriend, and I didn't even realize I was shaking until he asked me what was wrong.
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Posted by sinbad7277 Aug 22nd, 2012 at 6:22PM
It's been 33 years since it happened but I still dream about it too. about 3 to 5 times a year. I dont talk about it, Kinda pretend it didnt happen. It's not like we have a choice as victums, because we're not just victums we're also people who have to live our lives. Despite the dreams, anger, and anxiety we still have to get up each morning and go to work just like all the normal people. But still, I cant help but to wonder what my life would be like if it had never happened. Would I be happier, more secure, more sucsesfull? I guess I'll never know. Do you ever wonder what your life would be like if it had never happened to you?
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Posted by misery22 Aug 22nd, 2012 at 5:57PM
Honestly, i have not gotten over it. I don't trust people around my nieces, nephews or cousins. It does help to speak to other people who have gone through it.
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Posted by hylierandom Aug 22nd, 2012 at 5:55PM
I can't get over it, though therapy helps to manage it better.
some days are worse than others.
Would like to do massage.
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Reply by secret81 Aug 22nd, 2012 at 5:58PM
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Posted by BluesKing Aug 22nd, 2012 at 5:54PM
It can be difficult to get past, and a lot of times when you think you've finally gotten a grip on it, it turns around hits you from another angel. I'm 50 and have been coping for years and I can tell you that in time things do fall into perspective but it never fully goes away.
I'm sorry you've been hurt, too.
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Reply by BluesKing Aug 22nd, 2012 at 5:59PM
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Posted by ImaginaryColour Aug 22nd, 2012 at 5:53PM
Luckily for me, I suffer from supressed memories of what happened. I just don't think it and I don't question anything.
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Reply by CelestralCreature Aug 22nd, 2012 at 5:56PM
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Reply by ImaginaryColour Aug 22nd, 2012 at 5:58PM
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Posted by CelestralCreature Aug 22nd, 2012 at 5:53PM
it happened to me when i was 3. my brother and a gal gave me a milkshake w acid and pcp in it. they they fingered me. then my nest door neighbor started when i was like 8. i always told my [arents they bnever believed me!! so at age 13, in 1983 another gal and i thumbbed it from philly to san fran. candi called her parents so i never got to LA. wish i had.
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Reply by secret81 Aug 22nd, 2012 at 5:54PM
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Posted by Idonwannadie Aug 22nd, 2012 at 5:52PM
I didn't, I learnt to cope. There is a difference. I do get the nightmares, but way less than in earlier day.
But never I got over it.
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Reply by Idonwannadie Aug 22nd, 2012 at 6:06PM
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