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For the last few months, my supervisor has been having loud, angry conversations on the phone with her husband, the details of which I can't help but overhearing even though I'm all the way across the office from her. Today, she lost it, shrieking and crying and screaming obscenities at him and demanding to know why his "slut girlfriend" kept blocking her calls... I feel for her, but at the same time, I'm often on the phone with clients and the background noise is getting a bit distracting. We don't have the kind of relationship where I feel comfortable talking to her as a friend, but then, neither do I want to say anything to upper management that would lead to disciplinary action... she is, overall, a good person to work for. Should I do anything to let her know I do support her, or would that make things even more awkward? Should I just keep my nose out of it for now and hope it blows over?
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well it certainly looks like the woman needs someone she is in contact daily to back her up a bit. And it could help things in the office also quieten down some, IF you did just calmly go to her desk, and tell her you could not help from over hearing her distress. And if she needs someone to talk to you could offer to be that person. She apparently is in the process of a literal mental breakdown. Then as you two get to talking a little more, you may make the suggestion, that if you can hear everything she is saying that everyone else is also and she surely would not want everyone in the building nor the clients hearing her personal problems. This CAN get her fired for sure, so if you care about her at all, make a move towards helping her see what she is doing. Above all Do NOT go above her head. Things could change soon and get back to normal and the people over her may take her side over yours and then she will want you gone for going over her head. YOU see?
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Posted Sep 2nd, 2009 at 1:19PM
This all depends on how comfortable you feel with her.

I would offer her support. This would let her know that you can hear her, at least. And then I'd keep my nose out of it.

If it's distressing you, or your clients, it should be fixed. Otherwise, it seems like she's having a rough go of it. I'd let it slide.
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Posted Sep 2nd, 2009 at 12:37PM
Send her an email, telling her that you couldn't help but overhear that she is having a difficult time right now and that if she needs your help to take the load off or just to talk she will be welcome to do so with you.

I don't know a simple smile and how you are doing while passing by could help too.
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Posted Sep 2nd, 2009 at 12:37PM
Awkward is right! Since you feel that she is a good supervisor, you can try to speak with in confidence. Since you do have what appears to be a high opinion of her, approach her from that perspective. Let her know that unfortunately you can hear her conversations, and that you feel for her. Let her know that you think that she is a pretty good person to work for, and that judging by her previous decision in work-related matters, that you think that her private life decisions would be correct also. You don't have to cross that supervisor - employee barrier. Just let her know that you feel that whatever she does, it will be a solid decision.
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Posted Sep 2nd, 2009 at 12:38PM
First, offer your support. If she wants to talk about it , let her. She may not even realize that everyone can hear her. If nothing else, she will be glad to feel like someone cares about her.
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Posted Sep 2nd, 2009 at 1:22PM
I would talk to her in person. Let her know you feel sympathy regarding her situation, and use that at a way to indirectly let her know everyone can hear her. That could minimize her embarrassment and perhaps make her feel grateful that you are so supportive.

Emails are too cold for these kinds of touchy matters and you can't read someone's reaction the way you can when you see them in person. Emailing about personal issues can backfire big time--so I'd say if you're going to do it, do it in person.
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