Unless you have any form of contract or security, you cannot make her pay up.<br />
You can try by the various means others have suggested. If no terms were ever agreed, then it is likely that the request to borrow was really a request to have a donation.<br />
So often, the person requesting feels that they are more likely to succeed if the request is for a loan not a gift.<br />
You may well have subconsciously realized that you might never see your money again.<br />
What can make it worse is when the person actually showers you with presents without appreciating that they are being bought with your money, which is .. insulting.<br />
So .. 3 years ago .. you gave some money to someone who you thought was a friend. A true friend would not have let it get to this state unless they were very inconsiderate or still financially in dire straits. If the latter is the case and you still want to help, don't give any more money but try and help them in other ways. This could go hand-in-glove with accepting a schedule of small, affordable repayments.
First, you have to remind her that she owes it. If it's been 3 years, she may have forgotten. Then, unless you have something in writing, you have to just hope, she will honor the debt. If she won't, there is nothing you can do to MAKE her pay.
simple ...just ask her...say now your having a hard time and really need the money back...your happy to help her out...but now your the one in need
Send Buba over to "convince" her that not paying is a very bad idea. If she was crying when she borrowed the cash, a little more crying may convince her to give it back.
if she hasnt payed you back in three years she has no intention of doing so. your gonna have to be pushy. if she was really your friend she would have payed it back with a smile and a thank you. not mess you around. mention it whenever you see her until she is so tired of hearing it she coughs up.
It's hard when you lend money.
I have been stung at times, hope she comes through for you.
Ya. How much? I never lend anyone money that I can't afford to not get back. It's a friend. I don't know. I don't usually expect to get money back when I 'lend' it.
Tell her to pay it back or you'll take it out of her ***.
How much ?