I thought that for years I gave up looking just lived with crushes in my mind imagining kissing my crush but assuming it would never happen then something changed. If you read some of y stories you will see I now have someone. No its not conventional but it works for me and that is what counts.
Only a year blimy I was probably about 14 years with no one.
It's not sad. I have a HUGE fear that I will be forever alone. If I let myself dwell on it, I get major depressed about it. :/