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WHY CAN'T I TELL MY MOM?
I LIKE GIRLS AND BOYS BUT DON'T NOBODY KNOW. I CAN'T TELL MY MOM. WHEN SHOULD I TELL HER . I HAVE A BOYFRIEND BUT I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND TO. HELP!!!!!!!!!
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Posted Nov 25th, 2008 at 10:20PM
Because, you're a child and you can't seem to type without capitalizing all the letters. Stop using the "caps lock" and stop typing like a primate.
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Posted Nov 23rd, 2008 at 6:11PM
Why tell her any more than she needs to know? If she's happy you have a boyfriend, all well and good. She doesn't have to know you have a girlfriend too. And if she does, she'll naturally assume she's just a platonic friend. Where's the problem?
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Posted Dec 1st, 2008 at 9:59AM
amberciarra, its gonne be hard, but u hafta jst go tell her. when? as soon as possible! just walk in one day, and tell her right away. she's your mum, the fact that u find it so hard to tell her means how much her opinion matters to you, and if it matters that much, then you prob mean the world to her. i highly doubt she would be anythin but supportive. go for it sweety!

Duana, this girl is probably goin thru enuf dealin with having to tell her mum, and you tell her (obviously becaus u dont aprove of her lifestyle) to becareful of impulses?! Not only is that completly unsupportive material, but its exactly what one would expect from another who didnt think the way she lived her life was right.
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
I have a daughter be it she is only in 1st grade. I don't agree with that lifestyle but I also would never not love my daughter any less if she came to me one day and told me that she is bisexual. I would want her to be happy no matter what. Hope I helped you my dear Good-luck. ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
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Posted Nov 23rd, 2008 at 4:30PM
Children, when they are growing up look at their parents as 'guides' for the types of people that they are attracted to...'Daddies Girls', for example, find it hard to talk to them about their boyfriends...

You're probably going through something simular with your mum...Mum's are usually smart and can detect if 'something' is wrong anyway...so...thinking about it, talking to her will but her at ease. It's never easy but, take a deep breath, and start with the statement....then fill in the blanks....

Good luck....

Martika
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Posted Nov 23rd, 2008 at 4:30PM
This is what I've decided to do with my life. It's all about making me happy, Sorry if nobody else understands. You only have one mom and her opinon of you matters more than anything in the world. At the same time, you are all your mom has and she can never get another daughter like you. Mom and grandmother passed and I now have a whole new look on life. There are a lot of things that I wish I could tell them now and I know they would be shocked to find out! Go for it and time will heal itself, Take your mom out to dinner or prepare a nice dinner at home for her, tell her how much you love her and you really need her support right now. If she can't give it to you then tell her you love her anyway but don't ever want anything to come between the two of you. Hey this is a start and everything else will come naturally. Good luck, tell me how it goes :)
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
Could this just be a phase? If so - I wouldn't tell unless you are so torn that you have to.

I have a son - and I agree with Tinkerbell - I will always love him, no matter what.

Mothers have unconditional love for their children.

[[hugs]] good luck.
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Posted Nov 23rd, 2008 at 8:02PM
you not ready yet but if you feel she really needs to know you'll tell her
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
well, you tell me. why can't you? it's your life, and if she loves you she can learn to accept that about you as well. it's better for her to know & you feel no need to hide, then to hide and die inside, right?
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
What's the worst that would happen if you tell her? Or don't tell her and let her find out naturally.

Maybe you need to tell someone. Someone that means as much to you as your mom. An aunt, grandparent or adult friend maybe.
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
There are a lot of LGBT resources for young people online. I'm sure some of them have excellent advice about how, when and whether to come out to your parents. I'm inclined to agree with RobertHedrock, though. Why rock the boat if you don't have to?
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
How old are you....Are you so old that you might want to live with your friends???? Or even marry???? Only then does your parents need to know......

Some think that is hiding....But I feel that parents have no need to know who I sleep with.... I think that sex and sexuality is a private thing......and it does not change who I am
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
U PROBLY CANT TELL HER CUZ U CANT SPEAK ENGLISH!!!!!
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
Why do you need to tell your mum? You're not going to make out in front of her.
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
Well in spite of the fact that I feel erics' and porcupineman's answers were rude and uncalled for.....I have to say that its isnt an easy thing to do because it still isnt accepted very well by many people. My wife thought she was lesbian and her parents didnt accept it at all, in fact they put her through christian therapy to try to change her. Well actually she is bisexual, but she keeps that completely from them now. We are nudists....but neither of our families and none of our friends know it because they just wouldnt understand. Good lick to you....when the time is right and you are ready, you will be able to discuss this with her or you will discover that there is no need to do so.
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Posted Feb 5th, 2009 at 5:58PM
I am guessing that you believe that you "can't" tell her because you think she will not understand. It is likely that you are wrong about that. Your Mom is older and wiser, she has been around for a while and probably will not be as shocked by your confession as you think.

I think that when it comes to confessions of this nature, the shock that many parents have is not just over the question of morality. It is over the fact that thier hopes of oneday having grandchildren are taken away. In you case, you are not saying that you don't like boys, you are saying that you do like girls. So, this does not necessarily say to your Mom that she will never see the grandchildren that she has imagined and hoped to have someday. Personally, I have difficulty in seein the downside of bi-sexual women... :)
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