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It usually seems like I'm the one counseling everyone else, but something's wrong with me. I'll start off by saying that I'm the chill one, I let people do what they wanna do because I know what it feels like to be held back. You have my boyfriend, a comedic and social masterpiece who underneath the skin is depressed and insecure (Not because of me, he's been hurt countless times and we've been dating for a month and a half). He cut himself once a while back, (we were dating when it happened, so I bashed myself over it of course) and he once talked of suicide. That has pretty much nothing to do with what I'm about to say so I'll get to the point... He goes out with his friends sometimes. Guy friends. His boys. They go mudding and go in caves and all that redneck stuff. It just gets under my skin, for no reason. My logic tells me that he's having fun with his friends and to back the f*** off, but my feelings say I don't like it. He comes near death a lot of times. Idk what's up.
VivaVidalian VivaVidalian 36-40, F 5 Answers Jul 10 in Dating & Relationships

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Its called life baby only the strongest survive. Meaw < probably misspelled that.

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It sounds like you're under a lot of pressure. Maybe you just need to make some time for yourself and escape all of these worries. If you're worried about your partner self harming or having destructive thought, that's perfectly reasonable. Is there a helpline you can call locally?

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could be over-protectiveness because of the near death scenarios? or if you're constantly worried about his mentality it could make you angry he's putting himself into situations you might think he can't handle?

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That sums it up pretty well. He even told me he likes the near-death because it's "entertaining" (thrilling), and that chills me to the bone.

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yeah it sounds like it would hah, but i reckon if its something he loves doing it could be pretty good for him, it lets him vent things out or distract himself

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That is true. It's just I'd rather him pick a less threatening hobby, like cod haha

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we all go through cycles like this... perfectly normal.

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You are mothering him. You need a partner not a child.

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You're right, actually.

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