my wife discovered me and my boyfriend in a similar way. I am a crossdresser and turned gay later in life. I had been hiding it pretty well but it turns out one of the men in one of the gay clubs I go to talked to someone who knew me. It got back to my wife and she started having me followed. She has pictures of me with many different men in many different positions. The thing that bothered her most is that like her boyfriend I was on the bottom. It's not that she'd be ok with me on top but she said it explains a lot about my sexual performance me being the receiver. She has since found a "real man" with a "real ****" and knows what sexual satisfaction is now. She told me she occasionally suspected I was gay but couldn't believe her thoughts. WE both have something in common again, we both have boyfriends.
I too was once married and discovered I was like you later. But I really because knew I was attracted to men early in life. I would call it self-denial. Hope you and your boyfriend are very happy.
Does she gets ****** infront of you from her boy friend ? If yes how does it feel ?
Look - you just had a bite of reality sandwich.Good thing you learned now and not later when you and your boyfriend had more invested in the relationship. Besides, how much do you know about their relationship? Did you bother to talk with either of them about this? Might have been a one-time event, might be a regular thing.
seems like your bf wasn't quite as happy as he could be with only one member of the family so he wanted you and your bro. Stuff like that probably shouldn't happen; would have been better if he had broken off with you before he got involved with someone else. But it has happened so you will just have to get over it; just harder in this case than it would have been if you only had to deal with a simple break-up.<br />
As for feeling uncomfortable, well, that feeling too will pass. One thought might be to sit down with your bro and talk for a while about what happened, what you saw and how it makes you feel. Also clue him in about feeling weird around him after seeing him engaged in sex with another guy. By opening up the topic for conversation you should be able to clear up things and hopefully be able to get over it sooner. One little piece of advice is to try not to get too emotional in the conversation; stick with getting out the facts and feelings. Oh, and let him talk too; he may also be uncomfortable around you after you saw him getting it from you bf.
Loyalty is so important and it looks like it might be quite rare! Your brother is a very selfish human being and no way would I trust him in any situation. I would make it clear in a calm peaceful way that I no longer feel any sense of loyalty towards him. This is not normal behaviour for decent human beings. It has nothing to do with sexuality by the way. I just hope you don't let this screw you up and you find a loyal boyfriend!
I don't think you should feel like you're being homophobic about being upset over this. You were betrayed by two people who should have been more respectful to you. If they really wanted to do that- fine, but your boyfriend should have broken up with you first, that's not fair to you. It's true that sometimes talking about things can help you feel better about them, but maybe it's better to talk to someone more removed from the situation, rather than just add more drama to the whole thing. I know it hurts to be cheated on- I've been there. But you are young, and at least you know now that your ex boyfriend isn't the one, and you can move on and find someone that won't betray you like that. Good luck, that's something pretty traumatic to see.
Was either one emo? Because that might explain it.
wtf!? How the hell would that explain anything!?
Did you join them for a three way??
Are they still together.? Should have sat down and talked to them instead of going off.<br />
life is short and no matter who they were with brother with someone.else.boyfriend<br />
with someone.else..if you had no clue about your boyfriend or brother I bet that it was<br />
A one time deal....don't lose what you have with tjem
Make it a 3some; quick.
whats the question?
It's an oportunity for a DP is all that is.
WOW JUST WOW.
Jump in there & get some stupid. Geezzz.
How is this a question?
Ask god and tell your councilor that happened to me it sucked but me and my bro are tight again. One other thing try to forgive them