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My partner and I have been together for 5 years living in separate residences about an hour apart. He has built a new home and wants me to move in with him. I have a rent controlled unit for life which I would have to give up to move and also a mobile hairdressing business which I have had for 12 years. I would have to "start over". I see saw from week to week with wanting to go and then freeze and think I should stay where I am. I am very set in my ways, hate change and am terrified but on the other hand I have a lovely guy who I could forge a new life with although I would have to find a new job which at 56 is not easy in this economic climate. Can I ask your opinions? Thanks in advance. :)
Jewelia Jewelia 51-55, F 5 Answers Apr 25 in Dating & Relationships

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I'd be wary of giving up my independence and becoming a dependent. A lot could change with that shift, and not least if you're not married

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Marriage is no guarantee of success either!

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Yeah I know. I have lived my whole life like this - never taking chances. My only child lives interstate and I have no close family and few friends. I just felt like it would be a chance to have a new life before I get too old. We are old loves re-united from 25 years ago (bad timing was why we split nothing else). I just feel so torn. :(

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Flowerchild, That wasn't my point. Marriage protects interests. Without it this poster if the relationship went south would be left homeless, assetless

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Why not marry too? To give up everything is a huge risk. Fingers crossed it would work, but dependency changes people too.

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if you are happy in your current situation why would you change, if it does not work out you will need a new place to live, a new job and all of your dreams shattered

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Wow. I dont think I could do it for anybody. Too much upheaval.

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My sister was faced with this choice. Gave up her business, moved in with the guy, and months later was leaving him, having nowhere to live, no business, and no local contacts.

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What happened in such a short time that this happened?

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His dog, his insane love for his dog, his life revolving around his dog, and his controlling manner. He had seemed very low key. He was very quiet, hated noise. But it turned out he had a very quiet way of being very domineering.

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Wow! He seems like hard work no wonder she left!

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Love should be sold in a can!

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