Were you abused as a child ..and have you told your own children ?
i was ...and after years of hiding it ...ie not telling my own children ...circumstance has it i now must tell them..ive kept it all well hidin ...but now things have it ...i have to be honest with them...has this happened to you ? ...i can only pray for a good outcome
Have to add my children are all adults now...child abuse has left me with depression and panic attacks...one of the abusers recently died and has brought it all bk to me...
8 Answers to "Were you abused as a child ..and have you told your own children ?"
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I don't think my kids know to what extent, but I try to always tell them that really, please tell me what is going on in your life. I promise you, I undersand more then you realize, because I have been through so much.
Yet, as of right now, I try not to give to much information. Don't want to dwell on it. Try not to let it ruin the present or the future. I have wrote some of it down in my diary. If I die before I ever have a chance to tell them they can read it in my diary. Why will it matter 50-100 years from now? Maybe it won't, but then again, maybe my children will know and understand me better too. Hope it doesn't shock them too much.Like (1)
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thanks for reply.. this sounds so like me.. i recently had some therapy.. just speaking to someone and releasing some of the hurt and pain i had carried for years seems to have helped somewot..
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I was emotionally scarred. My sister was sexually abused by my father.
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I suffered from emotional (and occasionally physical) abuse when I was a child. A few years ago, when I was teaching a class of adolescents in a mental hospital, I found myself, for the first time in years, talking about my mother to the class. I did not directly, or in any detail, tell of anything in particular that happened to me in my childhood. But I would jokingly warn them that if they did not behave right, I'd go out to the Home and get my mother, AKA "The Wicked Witch of West Hollywood" to come over and tame them. They thought this was hilarious. And now and then I would give them a short anecdote about The WWWH. For instance, I used to remind them of what my mother always told me, "There are NO happy endings!!!" They loved to laugh and quote that one. My mother became a sort of unofficial mascot to these troubled teens and they loved to laugh whenever I would quote her or threaten to bring her into the classroom. I have a feeling they felt reassured to know that their teacher had had a bad childhood and survived to become a teacher and even to laugh about it.
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i feel that was quite brave of you...it is not easy to admit you were a victim of abuse...and really not easy to try to explain to people who have had what might be termed " normal upbringings " peace and hugs x thankyou for your reply
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i forgot if i got abused as a child but there is something telling me i did uuuuuuuuuuhm if i have kids id prolly read them a story, that should bring my point across.............it doesnt matter who the victim is, we should all feel bad for the victim, even if its a character in a novel.
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My mom was abusive to me and my siblings, but my daughter is only coming up on her third birthday. I think abuse is a rather mature topic and as long as you're not passing on the abuse then there is nothing wrong with telling them at a later time.
I treat my daughter leaps and bounds better than I was treated by my own mother, but I don't think my childhood really matters when it's her turn to go through her childhood now.Like (1)
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Nope, only as an adult. Yes, they know.
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Yes and sort of.
My kids are older now and only know that I had it pretty tough. They don't know the details, but they've never asked. If they ask, I'm usually honest, but I've never volunteered information because it's the past and my kids were my beginning. As teenagers, they don't really care about the olden days anyway lol.Like (1)
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Posted by skylar9393 Jul 26th, 2011 at 4:19PM
i was a victum of it my dad was real agressive.... i dnt have kids YET but theres no need to tell them hes been dead 4 almost 5 yrs
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Reply by starlitz Jul 26th, 2011 at 5:01PM
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Reply by skylar9393 Jul 26th, 2011 at 5:09PM
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