Never got a choice, it was always a spanking. It got it over with, I suppose.
Nope, their choice. Although after about age 11, no more spankings. Either grounding or having privileges taken away (no tv, no telephone, eventually no car, etc.).
My mum was very much against striking children, and before you get 'modern parenting techniques are stoopid' or 'pc gone mad' this was back in the 50s and 60s when she had us lot. Something i and my entire 3 generations of relatives agree on. Violence is a last resort and never directed at children.
That's quite admirable.
Usually just mums disapproval or disappointment was enough for us to be contrite but if punishment was called for then we had loss of priveleges or were kept indoors. worked just fine and so to for all the later kids. She was a good example.
Nope. Usually got both.
No :) My dad doesn't spank me - it's morralyl incorrect! But if he sais to me that I have to choose, I will choose to be grounded.
I would choose to be grounded also because I do not like to be in pain and spankings are painful
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Nope, I got spanked, then I had to stand in the corner on my knees.
Depends on what I did. A couple hours maybe.
No. I just got spanked.
I suffered almost no punishment, lazy parents. I was forced to discipline myself and as a result I've become ten times the human my parents are. Because all they'll ever know is the programming drilled into them from birth.
Nope sometimes I got both, that happened when I really got myself into trouble...
No .. parents need to decide the best "punishment" for their kids and just follow through with it. Sounds to me if someone is giving kids a choice, they're indecisive or unsure of their parenting skills.<br />
But if someone is old enough to be grounded, they're too old to be spanked anyway.
didn't matter, I would ask for one, and end up getting them both
Yep, and I took the spanking (more like beating).. I remember my father telling shortly afterwards how proud he was of me for manning up.
Hmmmm. Only a handful of times. It was usually that my punishment was already decided. Spanking or losing a privelage.
I usually got BOTH!
I never had a choice. Even if I didn't do something wrong and it was my brother's fault, or another kid's fault, I was always the one to be beaten, no questions asked.
making you choose between two nasty things is demented.
When I was 16 I lied to my dad and his response to me lying was turn around and bend down I told him I was too old to be spanked he said me lying to him hurt him so much he felt like giving me an old fashioned over the knee bare bottom spanking. He than told me that if I was too old for a spanking than I will have to come up with my own punishment and tell him How I was going to punish myself for lying. I told him I was to be grounded for two weeks and I have to earn back his trust.
My mother was firm but fair and I was spanked or had the cane until I was 2I. It could be anything up to 10 or 12 strokes with the slipper but was usually no more than 6. The cane was always 'six of the best'. 21 was the age when you became an adult and it wasn't uncommon for parents to continue to use corporal punishment up to that age. When I became 21 mum changed to grounding me with the option of being spanked instead. I always chose a spanking.