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What am I going to do with this guy?

My boyfriend & I have been together for 2yr (we're 22). We mostly get along VERY well, share many of the same interests, etc
In the beginning, he was the first to say I love you and I got gunshy. It was his first relationship, his first time reaching out. I didn't say it back, having been in 3 relationships soaked in I love you's that obviously tanked. After a few more months, I really came to love this boy and began offering the statement to him.
At first, it was fine & we exchanged love you's. Soon, though, his excitement waned.
Six months ago I experienced some unexplained seizures and took time off school, spending a great majority of my time with the boyfriend. Talked his ear off, was around a lot and probably a big nuisance.
Now I'm lucky to get a response at all. I asked him about all this, ending in him shouting "I just don't care anymore!", which he later took back.. it lingers.
What should I do? Is this over? I find myself wanting other guys who'll want love & give it back
Posted 5 months ago
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Relationships are like a dance - and most of us dont seem to know the steps.

You need time close. You need time apart. You need time to long for each other. You lose any of these things and it becomes a chase. And the act of being chased is a real turn off - dont ever fall into that one, or the relationship is dooooooomed!
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Posted Jun 8th, 2009 at 6:46PM
If you do not feel the things you once did and it's not just the typical 'low' of a regular relationship, I would say it's probably over. You both are young. You have some learning to do. Get out there, experience single life, make some mistakes. Find someone that truly makes you happy.
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Posted Jun 8th, 2009 at 6:14PM
you said it, you find yourself wanting other guys
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Posted Jun 8th, 2009 at 6:29PM
it takes two to tango...
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Posted Jun 8th, 2009 at 6:39PM
Consider pre-marital counseling as it helps one discern whether you are heading in the same direction.
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Posted Jun 8th, 2009 at 7:44PM
It sounds like he has already lost whatever he had for you. If you are already interested in other guys consider yourself lucky.
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Posted Jun 9th, 2009 at 2:25PM
You said it all when you said he was your first real relationship. Take some time off from each other and date other people. If it really is meant to be he'll be back after getting more experience in what having an emotional connection to a woman is all about.
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Posted Jun 10th, 2009 at 2:05AM
You need space in relationships. If you dont have that space then eventually you convince yourself that you tired of your partner. Alot of people feel space is a bad thing but in reality its a good thing. Its makes every moment your together that much more special because you longed to be next to your partner. Hope this helps you.
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