some good songs for this(me and my mom didn't get along either): mother by danzig, home by 3 days grace, for you by staind, killing in the name of by rage against the machine, dead bodies everywhere by korn, children of the korn by korn, Institutionalized by suicidal tendencies. :) Yup I am the master of this question!
" Step off ya FAT B I TC h.."
I recommend "She's Not There" by Santana, and the book "Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds and Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem."
Mine taught me, Don