What are some reasons a person would stay in an abusive relationship?

Now please don't use children as an escape goat to the Q.
My parents split when i was 5yo and I have never attempted suicide. So it's not THAT bad on children.

*DILLIGAF*

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1) The person literally is screwed up and can't really make it on their own and they know it, 2) The person's self-esteem and confidence has eroded over time to where he or she no longer believes in his or her abilities or self-sustainability, 3) The abuse has created a feeling of psychological dependence, 4) The abuser controls the economics of the home and the abused has no resources put aside, 5) The setting is bad....it's easier to leave in you live in a familiar area or have family or old friends nearby and, especially, if you speak the local language well.

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butterflying	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 11:36AM They enjoy it! There cannot be anything else. DILLIGAF Rated: +3Vote for this!
Cosreal	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 11:31AM everything that ActaNonVerba said.. and I feared for my life Rated: +3Vote for this!
takethesebrokenwi ngs	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 4:54PM They are mentally abused as well, they believe that they cannot do better and that they have somehow done something that has prevoked the behavior. They may fear being on their own or the fall out of trying to end it. Rated: +3Vote for this!
Doublejeopardy	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 4:55PM Co-dependency! That applies to people who are needy of others, physically, emotionally, financially, etc. Rated: +2Vote for this!
clitmit	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 7:12PM most feel theres no place to go.or they where brought up that way.and seem to think its a way of life Rated: +1Vote for this!
destiney24	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 3:56PM AFRAID TO LEAVE, FEEL THEY DESERVE THE ABUSE HAVE NOONE N NO WHERE TO GO Rated: +1Vote for this!
notg	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 3:35PM they hate themselves, YAY DILLIGAF Rated: +1Vote for this!
waterdroplet	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 2:55PM Love; and the blindness caused by it Rated: +1Vote for this!
freakyme	Posted Oct 18th, 2009 at 2:50AM 1) The victim believes that if they stick out long enough their partner will change for good. 2) They have been in the abuse for so long they have lost touch of what a comfortable relationship will be like. 3) They don't have any self esteem (maybe because their partner constantly tells them that they are worthless) 4) They don't have financial stability 5)The victims a loner and can't take a stand by herself or does not have any close people to go to for comfort. Rated: +1Vote for this!
avibot	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 11:21AM 1. no better way out. 2. the love of being a martyr/masochist. 3. tolerance/threshold. 4. being plain simple and stupid. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Andrette	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 11:21AM There should be no reason for staying in an abusive realtionship. It depends from situation to situation. If you are in an abusive realtionship it may have a negative effect on the children as well. Maybe financial reasons, maybe hope, maybe false love, ... do not know. I do not have any experience in this subject. Rated: +1Vote for this!
satantypes	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 11:32AM Naivety. Rated: +1Vote for this!
Ions	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 11:38AM One reason is that you dont have to take responsibility for anything that goes wrong there is a phycological cop out that you have the higher moral ground and that in iteslf can be a comfort Rated: +1Vote for this!
MySweetLord	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 11:44AM Fear and optimism Rated: +1Vote for this!
dusknotdawn	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 11:44AM in today's economy? MO$NEY. ....if economic woes continue higher, watch domestic violence incidents go way, way higher...... Rated: +1Vote for this!
Literaturegirl	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 11:51AM People stay for different reasons and much already detailed by Acta...because sometimes there's nowhere else to go; lack of/loss of confidence-- the abuse affects perceptions and many abusers work very hard to belittle the abused; fear, because the abuser threatens to track the abused down if they try to leave; because the abuser apologizes and promises again and again to change and sometimes love is shown, giving hope -- “intermittent reinforcement”, which is a trap... Rated: +1Vote for this!
sighhhh	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 7:50PM They're in to BDSM Rated: +1Vote for this!
illusionist35	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 8:48PM financial stability maybe. Could also be that they have such low self esteem that they feel no one else would have them. They might maybe have no family nor friends thus feeling there is no one to turn to. Rated: +1Vote for this!
thoughts	Posted Oct 17th, 2009 at 9:45PM Some people fear being alone I think. They probably stay with an abusive person because they think it's better than having no person. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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