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In your opinion...what is the difference between loving the person and being IN love?
growwhereyouglow growwhereyouglow 36-40, F 19 Answers Dec 5, 2012 in Romance & True Love

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I think it's just a way for someone to beat around the bush because they have no idea if they love someone or not.



In a relationship .. you're in love/you love someone .. it's all the same thing. You might not like someone all the time and still love them .. but loving and being in love .. same thing IMO.

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I think the difference is being in love with the person... and just loving the idea of the person, having them around, etc.

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I agree...the 'in love' person you want to ravish...the 'love' person you want to cuddle :}

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Well put. Although I'm stuck cuddling my teddy bear lol

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HAHA...do you ravish that teddy bear ;} I will admit...I love my teddy bear :P My mom made it for me...I adore that thing, it's very special.

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lol No I don't... at least not on purpose lol

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"Love" for a person is more about care and concern as I would feel for friends and family.

"In love" would be a deep romantic, passionate feeling I have for a partner.

Sometimes that in-love feeling fades away to just love, for some partners that's good enough but it wouldn't be for me.

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It means caring for the person vs having a sexual/romantic interest in them.

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story of my pst 5 years...to me the diffrence easily said..inlove -you feel special just being around them and they make you happy sometimes butterflies and all....love-you would be hurt if something happend to them..stuff like that..

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what's the difference? Well, with one you stay married, and the other you do no.

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I wonder how many people stay with the person they 'love' thinking this is what 'love' must be. Then I wonder with all the 'sexless' marriage groups in abundance here...is it that they have love but zero intimacy...or worse...none of the above...and yet they still stay. Boggles my mind.

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love without intimacy seems like a complete waste

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....it so does...I would shrivel up and DIE! Utter TORTURE!

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I f*cking hate that saying. what the hell does it mean. "I love him, but I'm not in love" The law states I'm allowed to hit somebody in the nose with a Barbie when that's said.

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...HAHA...with a Barbie eh? Why not go for a GI Joe hit ;}

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Yep sounds familiar, I still love my ex but not in love with him, passion is gone

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exactly...the passion...I came up with that word to in relation to this thought

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The only prob is that we never really had much of it from the beginning ha, so what to hold onto but it's ok

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...just curious and if this is too personal, you can ignore...but have you played with ways to get that passion back?

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The dreaded moment when you love someone and they respond that way to let you know in a "friendly" manner they don't love you in the same way.

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I love many people but I am in love wth ony one..There are many levels of love such as love for your family ond love for your friends being in love with your parter is a love all in it's own

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Good point...however in regards to just your partner this statement has come up numerous times, people will say 'I love him, but not in love with him'...I was curious what that meant to people.

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Just as you can fall in love with a person you can fall out the thing is I was married for 21 years and at one time I was in love with him...He abused that love and even tho i'm no longer in love with him I can't just stop loving him somewhere in my heart

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I can totally understand what you're saying...

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i think it is so true, there are time's i a deeply in love with my husband of 26 years and then there are day where i love him

when feeling IN LOVE there is a much more intence connected feeling

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I can totally understand what you're saying. Long term, 'standing the test of times relationships' have a mix of both...

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In love indicates a desire for sex in the relationship. The statement is usually made to attempt to communicate a candidate for sex is loved but not desired sexually. It is rarely believed by the recipient of the message who tends to have insight as to why the sex intends to be avoided and just agrees to the sentiment.

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So 'in love'...you want to have sex with the person...love...not so much...makes sense...that passion needs to be there for the 'in love' part. I guess in a relationship I think about is it ALL in love or a mix of both...I'm thinking it's a mix of both at times.

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It's only a good relationship with a mix, that's for sure.

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