What are your views on?

I think it is okay, as long as they are always aware of the age difference, as the 16 year old is a minor. If they are both okay to wait for anything too intimate.

as long as you aren't f*cking or getting too 'close' it's not illegal.... but i would question the maturity level of a 20yo who was into dating a 16 yo...

Yes it is only 4 years difference but mentally its more like ten years. A 20 year old has experianced life more then a 16 year old has. Yes i knwo your in a hurry to grow up and experiance all that life has to offer. But listen to me when i tell you this truth . The experiances you learn on your own without interference has more meaning to you, then if you just live them through someone else. Often the older person is missing something from that age that they want to try to reclaim .It can't be reclaimed but they will try . In the process they are ruining what could be vital moments in your life path that will shape the person your meant to be. I have personally dated a wide range of ages . But i find that those close to my own age before i was 21 were the ones i recall with happiness the most. I hope that this helps you decide what your path will be . I can only give advice you must make the choice that is right for you. But know this only about 2% of relationships last that have that big of an age diffrence when you between 15-24 .

Four years isn't significant when you are 25 or 30 years old. But the difference in the maturity level of a 16 year old and a 20 year old is huge. I wonder why a 20 year old man wouldn't rather date a grown woman.

I don't understand why people are crying about a little age difference but if you are in a place where this would be illegal then you guys should wait it out. He would end up being a sexual offender and the consequences can be really serious. If you guys really like each other then wait for a year or two before you do anything sexual.

I-L-L-E-G-A-L.....4 years this early in life...almost a lifetime..

no you are too young right now to date a guy who is 20.. I would think...
as a mom of a 16 year old, I would be a bit concerned that a 20 year old would want to date a teenager in high school.

what do your parents think?

it's illegal

period

yes, it probably will get in the way. If you lived on your own then it would be maybe less of an issue. But you are too young to do that. You are JUST old enough to get a job, and are not even done with high school. I see underage drinking arrests in your future. He will be graduated or dropped out of college by the time you are just starting to go to college. You aren't even old enough to go to a dance club, or smoke a cigarette!!! You are what him and his friends call "jail bait" and I am sure his friends and peers will embarrass him about dating you for being much younger. But it also depends how serious you are. If you are not very serious and you wait at LEAST a year to have sex, it could work. Otherwise, I think you will find yourself being used, being talked down to, or being cheated on. In any way, I do not think he means for it to last with you and i think he is just having fun. If he is not just having fun and means it to last, that means he is very insecure and has lots of problems dating girls his own age....which to me is a red flag. He thinks, "she's 16, getting her to date me will be easy since I'm older and she can use my car, go to my apartment unsupervised, and get alcohol from me that I get from sophomores...16 year olds are gullible and will do whatever they think makes them seem "cool" to their friends and different from their parents. Now I don't have to put any effort into dating as it becomes all about her using me for my resources and me using her for hers."
RUN!

it depends on how others see it and how ur parents see it and how u see it...i had this 19 year old bf (im 17) but we broke up the other day since my parents weren't going to let us date...so right now i guess there is a significant difference but later on it wont be

but just be careful with him since he probably sees ur relationship different than u do and just be careful that he doesnt try to harm u

When I was 16 I was thinking about sleepovers with my girls...when I was 20 I was thinking about sleepovers with my guy...get my drift? 16 is too young for a grown-up.

I personally think it is wrong right now if the two of you truly love love each other be friends first than when your 18 whatever happens happens.

No problem at all. I'm always surprised at how people underestimate the maturity of teens. Though if they screw around, there will be legal problems. But hey, who's watching?

Hugh mistake. Illegal! would you like him being arrested as a sexual predator with you in the starring role as the reason. It would follow him the rest of his life.

Be more mature and realize this is not a good thing. If after you turn 18 and still want to date him, rethink it then.

You should be hanging with your peers, going to homecoming, movies, etc... He should be in college, dating girls his age and not acting like a perv.

If he knows your age and still wants to date you, this should tell you something isn't right in his head...be warned...and stay away from this.