What can I do to change my husband's mentality?

wow,you have to lay down the law.my girl is in the middle of taking her exam's to pass the bar.i clean the house when i can.even cook her dinner 3 or 4 times a week if i can.she's helped me in so many way's.it's the least i can do for her.but some people can get lazy if you let it go on too long.doe's he love you more then the x box.if so that could be a problem,best of luck..

If you want to stay with this 'guy' (won't really give a male the title "man" if he isn't doing his part in a relationship) I would suggest confronting him and giving him an ultimatum. Basically, 'honey, unless you have a job in the next 30 days I'm going to find an apartment by myself and you'll just have to fend for yourself.' If he shapes up maybe he just needed a 'kick in the ***' as MismyH said... if he doesn't find yourself another guy but before you take it 'too far' check him out thoroughly in the 'does he 'man up' in his life and take care of business' if he doesn't no matter how 'hot' he may be, or whatever he really isn't going to make you happy is he? Good luck.

Maybe you and his friend can finish movie everything but your husband and the X-box?

I agree with Creamsicle however, don't treat him like a son but a husband. If you treat him like a son he'll be a son and you the mother. This is not a healthy relationship scenario and something has to be done in a mature level. It seems that his self esteem is very low. Bottom line you must direct him to make sure that your move is complete and divide the area of responsibility because apparently he can't do. Good luck with a dead beat husband.

Well, at least you feel like ripping YOUR hair out, this time, instead of his...

If you are going to continue to abuse this man...expect NOTHING positive out of him....if you want better from him.....invest in him....otherwise, move on...and let him find someone who realizes that marriage does not mean hitting, biting, punching, spitting, slapping, etc....You are very lucky he hasn't walked out already.....OR...is that what you are trying to MAKE him do?

You should stand firm. Not necessarily become what some men think as b****es. Just show him you need some support. A relationship that isn't 50% both ways isn't a relationship. Perhaps if you have an lawyer friends, draw up some divorce papers, if you are that serious about wanting to get him off his rear. Sit him down and talk to him as an adult and tell him, here's the divorce papers you haven't yet to sign. Tell him that you need some help with making this relationship work or this is your ticket out to go find some peace of mind. Or at least what you deserve.

If he blames it on economy or recession, kick him out the door. As for the Xbox...I have a PS3 and I rarely even play it. I could buy an Xbox, but there is more to life than just playing games.

These are the moments you try to avoid before getting married. Most couples sit down and talk out their goals and dreams before just tying the knot. If you don't talk about goals and dreams soon, there won't be any at all. At least not with him. I'm sure you understand what I'm talking about.

Last but not least, you can at least talk to his friend to help try and motivate him on top of other ways that you can help motivate him as well. Let his friend know that you really need him to be a husband. All he's doing right now is just being a kid with a toy that has no responsibilities.

Girl, you deserve better.

First you will never change him but you can help him figure out why he won't compromise. He is very young to be depressed but that is what it seems too me. He is depressed and in some type of rut so I would try to talk to him and see if you can find out what is bothering him. I'd bet he feels inadequate in some way. YOU are too young to have such stress and turmoil in your life. Try to work it out not before it gets past the fixing point

Absolutely nothing!....He is a male, after all!

First thing you need to change is husbands. Dump this loser and find someone who isn't living off someone who's only 21. There's plenty of nice guys out there, even jerks have jobs and can afford a girl a drink!

Just try to encourage him and if that doesn't work, KICK HIM IN THE ***...lol...that's what I do to my husband. But, whatever you do, do it lovingly. :)

I'm sorry but you can't. It takes an act of God to do that.

Oh, dear, I am so sorry to tell you that there is nothing you can do to change anyone but yourself. You can not cange anyone. You can encourage and support but change comes from within.

Compromise