I know you would love to persuade her to see sense, but sometimes you just have to trust her to learn for herself and find her own way to doing the right thing.
I understand - if you say too much though she will hate it, but there is always the risk that you haven't said enough & really shown her the dangers, but she does need to make her own choices - hang in there for her and I hope she wll listen and respect you :)
as they say, the heart wants what the heart wants. the age difference isn't really a very big one. It's jut that it straddles our social mores of decency. Age is all relative. Although he is 25% older than she is, the 4 years will remain, no matter the age, but the ratio of difference will diminish more and more with time. At either age, 16 or 20, they both still have a lot to lern about life. But we all do. I say let them live and learn...
I was 15 and involved with 22 year olds and older. <br />
Truth be told I felt safe. <br />
Why? If I was pregnant I could blackmail those guys into footing the bill for an abortion. Also they'd be discreet about us. So no slandering after we went our seperate ways. <br />
I think you should keep an eye on the guy and let your friend learn the hard way. I used to have a thing for older guys but after I met enough of the rotten ones my desires for them cleared RIGHT up. <br />
Just be there for her when she needs you. People opposing it is only going to send her straight to him.
No problem. My friend is older than me and her choice in men and her relationships have my ripping my hair out. -,-
don't talk to her (16 year old), talk to him, the 20 something. Tell him to back off or he goes to prison for molesting a 16 year old. The justice system and prisoners will not like it and he dies.
Oh, my ex just spent the last of her money to leave me across the nation. She let the guy do more than she wanted, called me in tears begging me back, but it was all too late because it was unprotected. You can't save them when they want to die unless they miraculously survive.