First of all, we are humans. we'll make mistakes and feel consequences. this is true for everyone of us. it's the journey. Yet, there is still a way out: love.
Those who abuses you have their problems. Their actions towards others can give you the hint. Rather than leaving them to their misery, be a human and love them. Wouldn't you like to have help when you desperately need them? Be that person for others and for yourself and thing will change slowly and permanently. Hope it helps!
Its so hard i want out so bad he treats me good then once every few months hes a crazy mean person. I have kids with him I've been with him since i was 14 im now 26 hes all i know but i know me and kids deserve better just scared to actually be alone. He cheats he has drinking problem hes abusive physically and emotionally its just so hard and takes so much out of me
When we are being abused, we feel weak. We are sure we are never going to be able to find a way out. But this is your weak self, your abused self, speaking. You have a stronger self which will emerge to help you as soon as you take that big decisive step out the door and keep going.
If you have no idea where you would go, start thinking. Think of things you would reject as unfeasible or too scary if the situation were not as serious as it is; you are in danger, if only in danger of becoming permanently depressed, discouraged and defeated. You need to start thinking of this as an emergency situation. If you were in a house where a fire started, and you found you could not put out the fire, you would not sit there thinking you had no place to go. So think of it this way: Statistically, your chances of being hurt or dying in your situation are greater than if you were in a house fire. You may not see the flames or smell the smoke, but you ARE in real danger.
So your first job is to think hard and figure out where you will go. Call every single women's shelter group or abuse hotline. If they have a long waiting list for a women's shelter, get on the list anyway, even if it's over a year long. Time can go by faster than we think. And you can be on the waiting list while you are trying to find someplace else to go. Call every friend you have, every relative who might give you a place to stay. I know this can be hard because abusers have a way of separating people from their friends and the supportive people in their lives. But make the calls anyway and explain your situaton honestly so that people will understand why you have been out of touch. If you do not go to church, find a church and go. Churches can provide counseling and help of all kinds. They are a great place to meet new people. You will find supportive people there and you may be able to talk to the minister about what's going on in your life.
Before you leave, find all of the paperwork that you might need such as your birth certificate, a marriage license if you have one, property records, bank records, tax statements, because these things often prove much harder to get after you've left. If you can, make a video or recording of some of the abuse so that you willl have proof of it for anyone who believes his side of the story.
Good luck and don't give up on this project. If you are not sure what to do right now, say a prayer and keep thinking.
Try to get out if possible, there's always government services that are supposed to help with these things, even in third world countries these help groups exist, find out where to go plz.
LEAVE. As simple as that answer is for something so complicated to do, you have to learn to make it simple. Especially if you have children. I grew up in a home where my father physically and verbally abused my mother. My sister went into two marriages where she was verbally and mentally abused and the later relationship ended in her own daughter being sexually abused. The choices you make negatively effect the others that depend on you and ultimately perpetuate a cycle. My father learned to abuse from his abusive parents. My mother was abused by her parents and wasn't strong enough in self-worth to accept the right kind of man. My sister saw this, learned from it and met two men who were abused or neglected and had been subject to sexual assault...they too turned into abusers. It took me years to realize that my mother was an idiot for staying, my sister was an idiot for following and I would be an idiot for not breaking the cycle and realizing I am worth much more than they taught me I could be. If you want to wreck your own life...I say go for it, but don't take others down with you. Don't damage people because of your own baggage. Take it from someone who has had to repair a lot of damage due to someones inability to find strength and worth.
I do not mean that to sound as harshly as it may come out. But everyone has choices. No one is devoid of them. You just need to swallow back and make the hard ones in order to get to a better life.
frying pan call the cops whatever it takes just dont take it anymore
I don't know
Then your first job is to brainstorm a plan and find a place to go.
Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
This hotline can get you out and place you somewhere - get out and call your friends on EP when you're safe - GET OUT - Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
Set up a hidden camera