I stand up for her
I would explain that she's my friend and say that they risk losing my respect if they do not desist.
Well, first they'd lose my respect and admiration for them. Second, I would want to stick up for my friend. But I'm not good at that and I'd probably be too mad so I'd just get up and leave.
I remind them that she's not here to defend herself. Usually that stops it but there have been times when I've lost friends because I won't stand gossip. Then again I've had the same friends who had been gossiping come to talk to me about something because they knew I wouldn't break confidence.
I think I am, but I also have alot of past baggage that can be real intense at times. I usully don't let anyone close enough to know the intense parts, which clearly, impedes friendship.
I say, "you know she's my friend right.?" That will usually shut them up. I'd then continue to look disgusted with their behaviour until they apologised.
You have to be tactful and firm knowing when to set them straight is the key. If you let them get into a heightened bashing frenzy your words will go unnoticed. I just start providing truthful words in a non emotional tone early in the conversation and sometimes the situation stops sometimes it doesn't and you get attacked
I'd defend my friend. I'd not respect these people if they would criticize my friend distastefully.
Id set em right......... I wouldnt admire them if they were b itching bout my friends!!!
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Excuse yourself and leave.
I would not put it past such people.