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Asked By: OnewithJC 36-40, F 6 months ago

You’re having lunch with three people you respect and admire. They all start criticizing a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. The criticism is distasteful and unjustified.

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Posted by Gemzaayy Nov 9th, 2012 at 6:13AM

Id set em right......... I wouldnt admire them if they were b itching bout my friends!!!

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Reply by OnewithJC Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:08AM

You and me both, girl friend. :)
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Reply by Gemzaayy Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:09AM

YAY *hi 5's*
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Posted by cuddlybear Nov 9th, 2012 at 1:33PM

I stand up for her

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Reply by OnewithJC Nov 9th, 2012 at 9:51PM

:)
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Posted by 2029Wren Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:13AM

I would explain that she's my friend and say that they risk losing my respect if they do not desist.

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Reply by OnewithJC Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:17AM

Very cool! You understand we are human and you offer them a chance to make amends! A good friend indeed! Thanks for sharing! :)
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Posted by jesscharnelle Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:04AM

Well, first they'd lose my respect and admiration for them. Second, I would want to stick up for my friend. But I'm not good at that and I'd probably be too mad so I'd just get up and leave.

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Reply by OnewithJC Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:07AM

I think that it is awesome you seem to know yourself very well! Nice!! :)
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Posted by phoebe55 Nov 9th, 2012 at 6:25AM

I remind them that she's not here to defend herself. Usually that stops it but there have been times when I've lost friends because I won't stand gossip. Then again I've had the same friends who had been gossiping come to talk to me about something because they knew I wouldn't break confidence.

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Reply by OnewithJC Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:11AM

loyal and dependable....you seem like a good friend to have :)
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Reply by phoebe55 Nov 9th, 2012 at 12:11PM

I think I am, but I also have alot of past baggage that can be real intense at times. I usully don't let anyone close enough to know the intense parts, which clearly, impedes friendship.
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Posted by hot4preacher Nov 9th, 2012 at 6:18AM

I say, "you know she's my friend right.?" That will usually shut them up. I'd then continue to look disgusted with their behaviour until they apologised.

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Reply by OnewithJC Nov 9th, 2012 at 6:43AM

You go girl! ***snap, snap, snap*** Love it! :)
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Posted by farmgirl60 Nov 9th, 2012 at 6:16AM

You have to be tactful and firm knowing when to set them straight is the key. If you let them get into a heightened bashing frenzy your words will go unnoticed. I just start providing truthful words in a non emotional tone early in the conversation and sometimes the situation stops sometimes it doesn't and you get attacked

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Reply by OnewithJC Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:10AM

Nice, thank you for sharing! :)
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Posted by ohfuckitandbehappy Nov 9th, 2012 at 6:14AM

I'd defend my friend. I'd not respect these people if they would criticize my friend distastefully.

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Reply by OnewithJC Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:09AM

I hear you, very good! :)
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Reply by ohfuckitandbehappy Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:12AM

:)
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Posted by monkeysintheattic Nov 9th, 2012 at 6:12AM

Excuse yourself and leave.

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Reply by OnewithJC Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:13AM

Silent but strong, I like it! Hopefully they're not so dumb, they don't get the point. :)
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Reply by monkeysintheattic Nov 9th, 2012 at 7:17AM

I would not put it past such people.
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