Healing comes with time. Forgiving can be hard. What I've done is researched topics on the web that fit my predicament. Or you can look for a book on amazon or book store. <br />
Here's what spiritual people told me... Forgive in your own time and in your own way, like say a prayer or write all your feelings in a letter and then burn it so you give it up to God/angels/ spirit guide or whoever your higher spirit is. It's a form of release and recognition and the act of burning is a type of ritual so that it can be both a physical and emotional concept for you. <br />
If you don't forgive and hold onto it for years. It will eat away at your soul and you may choose bitterness over love/ keeping your heart open.<br />
My monk told me this story... Be like a bird, use compassion AND WISDOM. So that you may always fly. Love, yes but be careful who, how, when to give your heart. Listen to your inner voice.<br />
As for closure, that's been a tough one for me. That may take time as well. Just don't hold onto hope or love when it's oblivious a guy disrespects/ cheats etc you will only wear out your self esteem. ( as I did) <br />
Try this- get a new hobbie, stay out with friends, volunteer some place/ animals or the needy, or go to the movies often. Do anything to pass time and keep your mind busy, that will help out allot. <br />
I wish you the best through this raw hurtful time. Just keep breathing, tell yourself it's going to be ok... Even if you don't believe it. It will get better I promise. Hugs
This website helped me recently<br />
I've read some inspiring words on there which I hope to put to use in the future as I know it's way too early to forgive or get closure. Written by someone who's been hurt and has managed to forgive, and she's now a life coach! I've been tempted to buy her ebook but I'm gonna try and find a 'free' version first ;-)
I have forgiven everyone who has done me wrong .<br />
how ? Well I put myself in their shoes , found a reason for their behaviour and discovered what my lesson was is in it . Once I did this , it made it easier . <br />
I forgave for me first and foremost .
Rise above what they did. Forgiveness is mostly for you to free yourself, not for them.
I hope you get an idea..... I asked a similar question and got a lot of definitions of forgiveness but no real strategies to get there
Process the emotions as far as you can. <br />
Make a choice to forgive.<br />
Adopt an attitude from then on.