He needs profesional help.My nephew broke up with his first girlfriend and baricaded himself in his mom's trailer and threatened to commit siuside, he had an ice pick and cut rhe side of his face from ear to chin and cut a + on his cheek, the police were called and they said if he didnt come out on his own, they would use the taser on him, he did what they wanted, and rhey took him to the hospital he was on lock down for 72 hours, he is a lot better now. He knows life is worth liveing.
There are so many reasons a person can take to self harming, it can be very difficult understand why they are doing it. It can be done as a release for emotions that are just too much for them to cope with, and the act of self harming provides them with that release. It can be because they feel they deserve it, and they have such a low view of themselves.
You need to let him talk to you when -he- is ready, calmly tell him he can talk to you. But don't push it. You need to know whats going on in his life, and whats happened and what he was feeling before he decides to hurt himself. It's those feelings and what happened before are the trigger of sorts. If you can, get him to talk to a doctor about his mental health, because they will be able to provide so much more help.
It sounds like you are putting a lot of energy into helping him and its obvious that you care a great deal about him. Can I ask you what you are doing to take of yourself. Who are you talking to about how all of this makes you feel.
Is it possible, to get him to keep a diary of sorts, of what he's feeling and thinking before he hurts himself? Not only would it be helpful should you get him to see someone about this, but perhaps if he gets into the habit of writing the emotions down before he hurts himself, it would be a better outlet for him?
It's not everyones thing, but for some people it's a big help :)
Just try to be there for them.
tell her parents
Tell her that you will be there with her when she tells her mother. She must tell parents in order to get help.
You need to tell ur counselor at school. Immediately! He may not like you for a short while but in the end when he gets things straight in his mind, he will never forget how much you cared about him. Don't even think about it twice, no matter how well he appears to have recovered. Something is bothering him deeply, most likely you have no idea about. Good luck
Good. Just listening is a really marvelous thing. Try not giving any advice or what you would do. That can backfire. Best to just tell em "I don't know what I would do". Good luck.
Have you talked with them about it? Have you talked with your parents about it? If you do not trust talking about it with your parents is there an adult you do trust?
Try to explain to them that there are more positive ways to take control. And encourage them to address the problems that make them feel helpless.
Be a friend. Get to know her. Find out what she likes. Find interests that make her happy. But most of all, begin to explain that dealing with unhappiness means finding those other things to focus your time. Dwelling on the negative just feeds the fire. Dwell on the positive, the fun, the inspirational. But that takes team work. Are you ready to be that team?
That's great, but don't let cutting be the topic that keeps you together. Find a common theme, whether it's music, movies, bikes, swimming, etc. and spend lots of time on that positive subject.
You try to be there for them never leave then because that makes them cut more. My friends left so i started cutting more. Trust me
Yeah dont leave. And even if u dont understand it just be there for him. Thats all anyone ever wants. Just to have someone be there
No you do what you need to do. You are in no way responsible for their actions. Friends also do not hold you emotionally hostage.
Yeah. I mean if u care u should show it. I think it will help alot but also dint let it get to u so much
Why does he blame u. What dies he blame u for
Well tell him that if he doesnt want to hurt u anymore he has to stop cutting. Maybe that will be the thing that makes him stop
Ur welcome and if u need more help u can just message me i will try to help. I also have alternatives my therapist gave me to cutting in case if he needs help also