What do you make of this work situation?

with the way that names are now and our growing multiculredness it is to be forgivin that you made a simple mistake and the fact noone corrected you smakes of some acceptance of the situation.....the answer is simple...make a private apology to the lady in question and then forget it....To err is human....we all amke mistakes.....its how we learn. As for the dreams of nakedness, thats your fears of exposure and ridicule......remember...the only real critic is not your fellow human beings....turn your focus outward to doing the best you can in every situation, rather fearing doing something wrong and doing nothing at all........have fun with life.............

I have a friend, Dorothy Allison who wrote Bastard out of Carolina. I always call her Allison and she never corrects me. People will correct you if it is wrong. She probably doesn't care and neither does anyone else so stop worrying. And dreaming about being naked in public is not a sign that you feel less than, it is the opposite. Your subconscious is trying to tell you that you're strong--even naked in public is acceptable. You can't dream anything that you can't do or be. Impossible. Your dreams are just you and what you do in them is what you can do--not what you can't. Your waking brain tells you you can't--your dreams tell you that you can.

You need to stop worrying so much. The dream you had confirms it.

Mathew 6:27 - "Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?"

ask

Ask them... Be straight forward with them then you won't have that problem...

Maybe they didn't want to make you feel badly...

so what if your calling her by her last name.
There are heaps of people who get called by their last name.
It could just be a nickname or something

Your screen name suggest to me that you are probably not white. I'll share a brief story with you about a similar situation I faced. I lived, for a time, in Maine, literally the whitest state in the country (U.S.). I could not get realistic feedback there about anything. Reasons for this, I believe, include:

1) General xenophobia
2) They feel "akward" cause all they know is the woeful
representation of Latinos on TV (thugs, vegetable
pickers, drug dealers, etc..).
3) They just generally don't want anything to do with
you.
4) They are afraid cause they don't feel comfortable and
are afraid of being called a racist.

My situation is probably worse, cause I'm a big guy with a crusty attitude. Throw the bogus "thug" or "drug dealer" or "violent" stereotypes on top of it and people can get irrationally scared.

I don't know if your situation is anything like mine, but I thought I'd share that in case you might find it useful.

Same here. I’ve called a work mate by his last name as well for a year now, but so do others. He actually likes it. She may like it herself, or finally just got used to you. I get the impression you sense you’re doing things others say nothing about. Perhaps you’re still in the newbie stage, or maybe you have a very strong personality and no one has approached you. Either, way your remark about dreaming you’re naked in public is familiar to me as well. Start speaking up about your concerns and it’ll go away. The review is a perfect time to ask these things.

They were probably embarrassed - i let a woman call me carol for almost a year once because i didn't have the heart to correct her. The longer it went on, the more embarrassing it would've been to correct her. When she finally did learn of her mistake she asked why i hadn't told her & i said why & she said im daft & had a laugh about it. End of - no offence but every question you post has this self-doubting flavour. I sense you are quite a nervous person who suffers social anxiety - hence the naked dreams. This is your psyche's way of working through your fear of being 'exposed before your peers' - i got them a few times at high school - i was always in gym, then id realise i was starkers. It's text-book. I worry though, because every single question you post is to do with either social anxiety or this perception that you are being persecuted - you may have a complex of some sort & counselling, NLP or CBT would really benefit you & help you cope with these feelings that no-one likes you, or people are picking on you, or they're deliberately letting you get their names wrong for their own amusement. I wonder if you may have been bullied at school - you must've gotten your paranoia from somewhere. Try to remember, you're not at school anymore and though bullying in the workplace does exist, it's much less common than you imagine. I say this because you mentioned (in a previous question) you were being bullied at your last job - and maybe you were, but the chances of this happening again at your next job is very, very slim - unless of course it is something you are doing to bring this on. I know that i haven't much patience for a whiner and you do come across as a little whiny - im sorry, but it's true. This doesn't exactly endear you to others. And if you act like a victim, that's how people will treat you. Just ask them why they didn't correct you, but ask this with a laugh in your voice rather than accusation. See your doc about CBT, NLP or both - it will boost your confidence and put an end to all your social anxiety - you won't recognise yourself in a year. Good Luck and try not to worry so much. All i say, i say in kindness and honesty - please don't think im being mean, im only being honest & sometimes the truth is hurtful, but my intentions aren't malicious - you need to realise that you're a valid person with just as much right to friendship, happiness and love as any of your co-workers, or anyone on here - so try to love yourself more and others will be attracted to you too.