What do you make of this?

i think all of you are way to worried about the church and not about the meaning of religion.

i'm pagan btw but i feel if someone is devout why should it matter how/why/where they pray?

ahahaha-leeh-luuu-yaaa.

I agree with mid.

he's a teen boy and the testosterone is kickin in so of course he's gonna rebel but that doesnt mean he's trying to be a heathen

The value of church is in the lessons on life it teaches, and I also think that it does not necessarily matter which church someone attends - - it is what it makes them think about that matters the most.

You also wrote that your brother is acting like a fourteen year old boy, but did not write if he IS a fourteen year old boy! I could not help but wonder if you were putting him down a little bit or not.

For boys on the verge of becoming men, the attraction to girls is automatic and irresistible in many cases. This is when we begin thinking about loving and caring about people outside our families as more than friends. And I think love is really about surviving in this world and making an impact or contribution to (or back to) the world around you. As a fourteen year old boy, your brother may be beginning to see every blessing he has in life, every advantage such as an education, a home, a few dollars in his pocket, friend and a decent community to grow up in, and his health. This is a first sign of becoming mature whether we easily recognize it or not.

My advice to you would be to take your brother aside and talk to him about the things you love as a girl, confide in him that you will be there to support him if he has questions about what other girls will like (or how they will like to be treated) and be there for him as a confidant and counsellor - a big sister with a few more years of experience to share. Your wisdom may really help him understand the complexities of growing up, becoming a man, and learning about the responsibilities of beginning a family. If you can handle it, you may even offer to help him understand the things he may have previously regarded as "icky" about girls when he was only 13, or 12, or younger. The more serious you are about life, love and all these important things, the more serious and responsible he will be.

Its not just a big brother's world anymore! Big sisters are stepping up and setting the best example in life!

I would encourage your brother to put education before dating, and help him make wise choices about getting "serious" with girls in physical ways. These may be difficult subjects to talk about, and they are PROBABLY not the sort of things going to church has prepared you to deal with, but do not be surprised if he really looks at girls with a almost "mystical kind of attraction" now and basically looses his mind and concentration when he is around one that he likes. It happens to the best of us.

Good luck!!

grandma should just be happy that the kid is going to church at all.

She is missing the bigger picture. And of course he is thinking of girls, church isn't going to stop that. Leave the two of them to it.

hi :}
i think children should get some understanding of "church" religion when young but as they mature you have to let them go and find there own spirituality ,one can not expect teenagers to be enthused about religion when everything else in their life is so exciting and new to them ,they have to make errors in life and going to a paticular church is not going to protect them from lifes hard knocks ,grandma needs to chill out because the best thing she can do is simply pray silently herself that he gets through the teen years safely .we do not own our childrens souls [or grandchildren ]we are suppose to simply be there for them and guide them when they are young,and to set an example for them .
best to you ;}
pj

Just cuz somebody sleeps in the garage, doesn't make em a Chevy.
I know several people who go to church, doesn't mean they get the "love thy neighbor....." stuff!

I would think nothing of it.