What do you think if your partner/lover asks you to change parts of yourself if the both of you are to be together?
I mean shouldn't both partners/lovers accept each other just the way they are?
You are who you are, but you are told to change like your physical appearance and you don't like it at all...would you change or break up?
That is my situation, and it is very hard to endure it.
14 Answers to "What do you think if your partner/lover asks you to change parts of yourself if the both of you are to be together?"
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It highly depends. My boyfriend if my boyfriend asks me to stop yelling- I try my best to listen. But if he asked me for a boob job- i'd probably tell him there's no plastic surgery that could ever fix his little one. See my drift?
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I believe there are certain things in a relationship that do need to be changed in order for it to work. But physical appearance? That's not one I would put under that category.
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I was asked about it. I was told that my hairstyle is ugly and messy, and my partner did my hair the way that she thinks is handsome...though I honestly hate it.
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I have told my boyfriend my honest opinion on the rat-tail hairstyle, when he told me he wanted to get it, I don't like it. However, if he were to get it anyways then that's not something I am going to complain about and/or harass him on. It's his hair. Idk, I think that's a common thing women do?? I wouldn't take it to heart that much.
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If it's not that big of a change and it was something that I didn't mind, sure but if I hate it then no. It's your body and you can do what you want with it, if someone's going to break up with you over you not changing something then they clearly don't care much in the first place. Only change if you're alright with the change yourself, if not then don't and if the person doesn't stick around it shows that they don't care about you. At least that's my opinion on it.
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The small changes I'm alright with it, but not my physical appearance including my hairstyle.
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Then don't change, I don't view my hairstyle as a big change so I wouldn't mind changing my hair for someone but everyone has their own view and if it's important to you then they shouldn't be changing it.
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If your partner loves you, so as your partner should accept the way who and what you are. So should you do the same to your partner.
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Sounds like a realtionship destined for a break up. If someone wants to change another person they are better off leaving them and going out and finding the person who naturaly has the qualities they want. Some people can change for a month or a year but the real self will always come back to the surface.
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if they don't like the way you are, then its their loss
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If he did his butt would hit the pavement pretty fast. I change for no human but me.
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Yeah!
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definitely will try my best but i will not promise any thing
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Depend on what it is? If my wife/girl asks me to consider trying a different hair style or come out jogging with her more often then that's quite reasonable.
But I'm guessing you're referring to plastic surgery, correct me if I'm wrong?
In that case I'd walk away from this poisonous relationship!
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All I think when I hear people complain about their spouse/partner is "You could have caught a better fish, if you had used better bait!"
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It a little late for that ant it? Is my first thought? However I tell her I will work on it.
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Well changing of parts its possible these days through operations, but its quite better we change our thinking.
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Accept the way you are. Someone who truely loves you wouldn't ask you to mutilate yourself.
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I was wondering about that.
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Posted by LonexWolf Jan 3rd, 2013 at 6:19AM
If it's something like your lashing out at them or your gossiping, flirting or something, then it is warranted. But if, like you said there, it is your physical appearance or something that is really an unchangeable part of You, tell them no. Possibly break up with them, if they were serious.
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Reply by chronomantique Jan 3rd, 2013 at 6:20AM
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Reply by LonexWolf Jan 3rd, 2013 at 6:22AM
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