I'm naturally monogamous. When I love someone, I don't even notice anyone else. It'd be nice to find someone else like that.
I've been questioning monogamy. I feel an attraction to more than one person so why tie myself to one? But at the same time people need someone for the long run of there life.
New scientific studies suggest that if a woman has multiple sexual partners, this will lower her levels of oxytocin which in turn will damage her ability to bond. Oxytocin is a neuro-peptide most commonly associated with pregnancy and breast-feeding. It seems to act as a human "superglue," helping a mother bond with her infant. It is also released during sexual arousal and there, too, seems to work as a "superglue."
That's really interesting. Might help me undestand why I don't really want kids.
In my opinion, the best sex is monogamous sex. Being totally committed to one person and having the same commitment in return is the fr<x>amework for total openness. I couldn't live any other way.
I am in a very similar situation, I say it's up to you, me I do what I have to to fulfill my needs and desires
I understand that, for me it's been 21/2 years and although I love her I just need physical stimulation beyond having to ********** on webcam or something
Don't know about you but it makes me feel undesirable and unwanted
Right, I mean I'm not gods gift but I've had other women want me, so what have I done wrong here
Right, well I wish you luck, when you do give in he will be a lucky man :)
I know one thing, be honest! So many people lie about monogamy and have no intentions of one partner.
Just a thought, maybe if your partner was involved with your needs? And maybe you could open your boundaries? May spark your current partner?
Have you tried an exclusively oral relationship? Many men, myself among them, find cunni lingus very satisfying. I'm told quite a few women enjoy it too :)
Have you thought about a ********* with another chic? Involve your guy he may spark for you? No one needs to know what happens behind closed doors!
I'm currently in the first monogamous relationship in my life, whereas I've always been poly, and there are advantages and disadvantages to both. <br />
I'm a very non-attaching person, I don't easily commit, so poly worked well for me because it obliged the others to limit their clinginess as well. It's true however that in a poly relationship there is always a hint of suspicion, especially when you aren't full-blown poly. If all the people involved are involved with each other it's different, but if that's not the case... not all people can deal with possible jealousy equally well. <br />
In a way, monogamy is a gift. Foremost you have to consider yourself worthy enough to "be enough" for a man/woman, and then you also choose to devote all your attention to one person. That puts you in a very vulnerable position, and it's very important that your partner doesn't take your monogamy for granted.
Monogamy is a great social construct it lets two people provide complete near-constant support and love to each other.<br />
Heres a great vid on that<br />
Mostly interesting for ape/monkey studies, not so much interesting with people since then I stop having a clue xD
Monogomy...i don't have to worry about "who' i told what.
I never thought I would be monogomous until I met my current bf of 4 years. I have no desire to stray just because I love him so much =)
monogamy means earth and moon. neat and clean.
Comfortable, secure, cozy vs. fun, exciting, insecure. Depends on what you prefer.
I prefer it.