What do you think of online dating? ^.^
22 Answers to "What do you think of online dating? ^.^"
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CPGNatley - I too feel no woman wants me except as a friend: I've plenty of platonic female friends but they all have husbands or boyfriends & I wouldn't be the better choice. If you are entitled to wear the clan or regimental tartan do so, with pride - and I am a Sassenach who's always lived on the English Channel coast. If you wear Speedos at a swimming-pool, so what - they are only a make of swimming-trunks for Goodness' sake. If either of these put women off it's they who have the problem, not you.
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I think Angel Jackson has hit the nail on the head. I have never tried using Internet dating services, nor would I, for if they are anything like the postal or telephone equivalents I have tried they are not worth the gamble. I have met a few women through newspaper "lonely hearts" ads but of these only one went beyond the preliminary meeting in a pub or cafe.
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In fact she'd placed an ad privately, not through one of these scams. Then she turned out to be an alcoholic. The relationship struggled on for about a year, and became based almost entirely on sex (it's very hard to have a social life with an addict), before we finally broke up.
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The telephone ones in the UK (I can't make comparisons with US ones) typically cost £1.50 a minute on premium-rate lines, maybe more now, and play about 15minutes at that rate, of recorded bumpf headed "But before we begin please let me tell you about our services..." before you start to hear the first ads., each of about a minute's duration. One was so badly set up it was virtually impossible to understand how to use it and to reply! How do we know the Internet services, including those buying advertising space on this web-site, are not just as much a rip-off?
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On a general point, these services irrespective of medium are cynical money-makers trading on other's loneliness, in world that regards singletons as failures. They thrive on failure. Suppose I were to find one potential date out of the first 10 ads I tried. On the rates above that's £15 waffle + £10 ad browsing. Now suppose it took me 10 of those attempts to reach an actual date, with no guarantee our first meeting would not be our last. The dating agency would have taken £250 from me at a high profit-rate; and exploited my attempt to find love into its own, cold commercial exercise.
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So, I think nothing good about any commercial dating agency, irrespective of the medium it uses.Like (3)
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Having read all replies, I see none that's used a thoroughly analytical approach
Put it this way: the only time I really seriously used it was a while after my horrendous 1st divorce
There's a fab joke for the obvious question there, but I'll reserve it for any interested enough to PM & ask
Anyway, while reading all replies here, I'm conscious that my good experience of it is partly due to my having an overriding passion in life
That means ya can use specialist online dating sites where everyone shares ya passion
It's also coloured by my having had professional training in assessing folk in various disciplines
My last venture was in my first week @ EP
I got an email @ ChristianMingle.com & filled in its VERY professional questionnaire, using my stage name: Mr Versatile - with a suffix number I can't recall
I decided not to join after that free weekend, but my profile should still be on there for any compatible folk interested enough to do the free search there
Lemme say I've been approached @ EP by 2 Nigerian scams - last was just a few hours ago & I copied my reply email to EP Admin
Anyway, back to the funny story of my 1991 experience
I soon sussed that everyone ticked the box for no more than 50 miles away
& everyone was sent folk from 200/300 miles away as well as any who happened to be in ya own UK region
As the trained sales rep that I am, I wrote to folk @ my findings & suggested that, rather than totally waste our fees, we write as friends & maybe arrange group meets in central areas
I must say I made several precious pals thru it
I think I met a total of 5 folk & each meet was enjoyable
1 turned into a very enjoyable 8 months relationship, even tho she was in Bolton, Lancs & I was in Rhyl, N Wales @ the time
When that stopped, I actually contacted the highly intelligent, fun lady who became my 2nd wife
Anyway, for general purposes, I'd say search youtube for successful online dating tutorials
I'll finish by saying what I said @ deciding not to join ChristianMingle as a paid member
I'm having far too much fun in EP
I'm in the fortunate position of not worrying one way or another how my life works out, as I put it in God's hands
While typing the last paragraph, UCB Inspirational was at a point in a song of repeating the line, God works in mysterioius ways
I think my last blog entry - @ 9 hrs ago - was an apt Word 4 Today whose theme has escaped me, due to fascination by a superb lead guitar solo on UCB just now
AH: its headline was, I Wanna Live My Life Right
I know I'm a Scouse comedian who loves to joke around, but I've never ever - right from my starting dating as a teen - asked for a one-night stand, or rode roughshod over a lady's feelings
I genuinely am quite happy solo now, but every weekend of my 10.75 yrs in online discussion forums, I've always suggested fun group meets, so no-one feels left out
I recommend sunny Wed at St Helens & WiLike (2)
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I don't think it's a bad thing. People always say "THAT COULD BE ANYONE!!" - lol yeah, so could a person at a bar or anywhere else for that matter. People go to bar to hook up all the time..I don't see anyone freaking out about how they could possibly be "anyone".
Besides, I think online dating is better, you meet people around the world and you never know who you're going to end up with.Like (2)
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First, online "dating" is not really dating if you never actually meet and spend time together. It is very easy for feelings to develop between people who are chatting or video calling, when you are not getting the entire package. These feelings can also change rapidly.
As for dating sites, they seem to be successful for a small minority, while the large majority of hopefuls are disappointed. I went out on dates with a couple of local guys I met on dating sites. Nothing bad happened, as we met in safe, public places, but nothing particularly good happened either. The guys I really like always seem to live hundreds or thousands of miles away. Maybe I should move.Like (2)
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I actually never tried to meet someone from online dating cause I was scared! hahaha but nice guys may also be just around the corner ;)Like (1)
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It's a good idea to be scared. You actually know nothing about any guy you meet online, and a lot of them lie bigtime. So, if you do go to meet, make sure someone knows where and who you went to meet. Take your own transportation and your phone. Meet in a public place, etc. Be safe.
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Yes, it can totally work if both participants are dedicated and not focused on the lack of physical contact for a portion of the relationship. As long as the people in the relationship plan on furthering that relationship by actually meeting one another, that is.
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yeah I guess so! :) haha but it definitely needs a lot of dedication and trust
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Yup.
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Well, I met a guy online, and it wasn't even a dating site. So, I guess it can work. hahaha
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hahaha so, are you guys have something until now? :D
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Huh?
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It's just stupid. I mean come on , get a life! Online friendship is GREAT, especially for someone antisocial in person like me, but dating online is just weird.
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in some ways, yeah :) haha and a waste of time instead of going out and meeting awesome people :D
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It's the ultimate cheapo way of avoiding paying for a meal out.
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that's a good point!! :D
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I'm not proposing that this is the way to do things, I am saying that it's one low class cop out for some folk.
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hmm theres a first for everything i suppose :D
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Planning on trying it? :D
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Sucks totally for me so far, but I'm sure that it works better for young people.
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hehe why did it suck? :D
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Because there's no one I like that likes me. :-( I never get any messages. At least on EP people talk to me.
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I believe that when you decide to utilize a online dating site you have exhausted every other avenue and hope the service filters out the crazies in this world. That said I also think that most of us have issues left from past loves and those issues surface when out in the world looking for Mr. or Mrs. Perfect, and that also contributes to failure. So here you are the last key stroke in away and when you meet you let go of all your hangups and you click. I wish those well would love to see statistics of happy versus unhappy.
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I have met some nice women on line over the years. So I have a positive view of it.
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yea, I might as well try it for a bit ;) hanging in there haha
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It's a 'mixed-bag' - it can work - did for me for 2 long distance relationships. Don't go with the free sites.
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how about now? long distance kinda sucks though
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Yes - you can see one of my stories - but - if you're really into the person, you can do it for a time - it just takes patience. It is possible - I've done it - so can you! ;-) good luck!
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never tried it not sure if I would
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try! wahaha ;)
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It's how my cousin met her husband ^-^ I've never tried it yet but I'd say it works (:
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that's so awesome! ;)
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if you have a highly tuned BS filter - why not?
i have not tried it (YET) but i will.Like (1)
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it's worth the try! :D
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i haven't had any luck with it...
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if you can sift through all the scams, then some of them can be effective.
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hahaha yea, I guess so ;)
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On normal social networks it irritates me a little, but on dating sites... well. Obviously that's fine.
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do you get good results though? :)
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I've never tried dating online, but there's no reason why it can't work. I'd say the closer in distance, the better. =D
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Posted by clintonbill Aug 7th, 2012 at 3:46PM
Same as online eating
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Reply by movedon Aug 7th, 2012 at 3:54PM
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