well said. i rarely date. I'm not a blow up doll, or a " fix all your problems" person either.
hey, you, me, dinner, movies, billiards, this weekend
approach me would be a good start
Well hmmm it's been forever that I've been asked out or did the asking lol so I'd say be forward about asking and keep it simple . Go for a late afternoon coffee then if you can actually talk to each other then make a dinner date and movie or something like that . If it was me asking that's what I'd suggest . And one a date I'd wish they wouldn't talk or ***** about work to keep the conversation going lol keep that **** to your self most everyone hates there job at one point lol
Yes that too lol
"I wish that it didn't sound like they are a used car salesman." The guy is trying to sell a product, which is himself. If he was not pushy, you would never notice him.
" I wish they were upfront about their intentions and not acted like they wanted something serious." On the hand, you want them to be upfront. When they are upfront, you feel that they are being too forward. They can't win.
"I wish they were sure they really wanted to see you before insisting for months and then just disappearing after a week." If they pursue you for months, they are probably very interested in you. If they disappear after a week, it is probably something about you or the date that turned them of. Have you thought about that? Would you rather they stick around for a while knowing that it would not work out?
"I wish that people wouldn't take it so seriously and just take it for what it is : Two people meeting and seeing if something is there." You don't want them to take the date too seriously but you don't want to be too casual. Which one is it that you want?
"I wish there would be honesty if something works or not." Do you really want honesty? Do you really want to know that you or the date turned them off. Women say that they want honesty but what they are really saying is...only tell me something that I want to hear.
I am not sure if I completely understand your predicament. Tell me if I am off-base here. You want to be approachable and easy-going. You want to be casual (ala casual hook ups) with no pressure if making thing serious. You have to understand that men and women communication differently. When you say to a man that you want to be casual, this usually means to a man that you want to simply play around. For a man, playing around means potentially casual sex. When they behave this way, you get insulted because you think they simply want s*x. At this point, you say that you don't want casual sex. The man gets confused with the signal and simply walks away. Hence, he never calls you again shortly after your date.
What I am saying is that you yourself are sending mixed signals. Your definition of "casual hook-ups" do not really mean casual hook-ups. They really mean...let's pretend to be casual but really work for something serious. The unfortunate thing is that you are not in the minority when it comes to this. Most women do not realize that we men hears things completely different from what you say. I hope this all made sense.
I forgot :)
Sounds like you're dating the wrong guys.
Like "hey wanna ****?"
so what's the best kinda approach?
Yeah but like if I am myself she's gonna fall hopelessly in love with me :/
Looks like you've been dating a few doozies, maybe open your eyes to different type of men who respect you.
Move, or travel somewhere different, you're bound to meet new different people. Honestly and personally I would love to visit England, there seems to be a lot of friendly gentlemen there.
Damn, I had a feeling you were gonna say you lived in England. Sorry I cannot give better advice. You'll be alright :)
Admitted truthfully if they really have a boyfriend.