What happens if i loose custody to my son's father?

If you LOOSEN custody,your son's father will have a

chance!


Then, you may LOSE custody!

i am a non costodial mother threw many secomstances and not being able to provide or being fit enough as a mother is not one of those reasons,unfortunatly if it turns his way al u can do is accept it.it will take u along time as im still having nightmares when my kids are over.my son has always desperatly wanted to live with me as he was trumatized by our seperation after my accedental house fire but unfortunatly i didnt get legal aid funding last year due to the ression so i had to pull out of my attempt to gain costedy.if it happens say to yourself that it was ment to be and try to pick up the pieces of your life.think of all the things that u ever wanted to do and take this time to do them.im planning a trip to cambodia.what ever u do dont ever worry about how others will judge u and many will .what u do is repeate out loud...I DONT CARE WHAT ANYONE THINKS OF ME

Not enough info. here.

Number One:
All children should be raised in loving, safe homes.

My daughter does NOT have custody of my only grandchild, but he is in a home where he is totally adored and he is HAPPY. I was actually going to try to get custody of him, he is my blood, but I had to think about his little world and I just did not want to mess it up. He comes to grammas house every week for 2-3 days, so I get a lot of time with him.

These situations are so sad for everyone involved, but I do think the child's needs should be first and foremost. Childhood should be a magical time.

(sorry you are having this type of pain)

I don't know the details of your situation, but I will share with you my experience. My husband went after custody of his son when his son was 7, and we had just gotten married. So it was all a little overwhelming for me, but I couldn't disagree that our home would be more stable than his mother's. She had moved around so much, getting evicted from places, couldn't hold a job, getting involved with questionable characters for "boyfriends." We hired an attorney which we spent the next 6 years paying off, but I do believe we made the right move. My stepson's mother was not a good mother, she did not put her kids first (she also had another child with a different guy). She liked to "party" and often left the kids home alone when they were far too young. She was more concerned about finding a boyfriend at a bar than spending time with her kids. I realize being a single parent is probably quite challenging at times, but that is no excuse for not taking care of your kids and making sure their needs are met. She did a lot over the years that proved to me she probably should have never had kids, but I do believe, in some strange sort of way, she loved them. But, we raised my stepson and gave him the best life that we could, but in the end, he actually resented his father for "taking him away" from his mother. It really is a messed up situation, and it angers me to this day that my stepson feels somewhat guilty that his mother has had so many difficulties over the years. I have tried to explain to him, now, as an adult, that her life is the way it is because of her own choices. We all have the power within ourselves to better our lives, if we CHOOSE. It isn't always easy, but certainly is worth it in the end. I don't know what it is like to be her, but I know her kids both suffered from her bad choices and less than nurturing mothering skills. She is not a bad person, but she was not a good mother. If you can truly say that your son is better off with you (not just to spite your son's father), than do whatever you can to make sure that he stays with you. You have to make sure that your home environment is one that the court would view as stable and secure. Your life must be stable and you must be able to show the court that you can provide your son the best possible life. It's not about money, but financial security is part of the equation also. There is a lot to think about, but PLEASE, don't focus so much on the battle between you and your ex. Focus on the best interest of your son. It won't be easy either way, but that is what is the MOST important thing-it's about HIM not about the two of you. Good luck to you.

whatever the outcome... you will have to accept it and work within what you have... do not let it drag out because the only one to truly suffer is the child. so often do the parents ignore the emotional as well as physical and intellecutal aspects of the children.. because they are so consummoned with vendictiveness .. self righteousness of themselves .. that the quality that they are seeking gets destroyed because of it.. never to be retrieved again... If you husband is seeking custody there is a very real reason as to why and you know what it is,,, I personally .. if I could not provide for my children .. which I could and did..when I was a single parent, I would let the father in that type of situation have residential custody and the mother have visiting rights.. however that may be worked out. Child support is only based on a persons income and what they can sustain... Food for thought.. ..

you wont the child always goes to the mother unless the mother is seen as unfit to look after the child so u shood be fine