What if some bits of your personal life became pretty much jokes that your friends discuss and laugh about publicly?
Seeing a guy. We have mutual friends. Some of them love to make quite un-sublte jokes about this personal stuff, like "oh, i don't even want to know what kind of gross stuff you guys do in bed" , "omg, you two sound the same you have to stop seeing each other", or if i complain about something completely else to a friend, the reaction is something like "oh come one, guys don't hate you, look who have you been sleeping with,etc"
I realize that regardless how our "seeing each other" ends, this will always be a running joke amongst the friends.Dunno what to do :(
11 Answers to "What if some bits of your personal life became pretty much jokes that your friends discuss and laugh about publicly?"
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Some friends they are. I'd almost consider it to be bullying. They are being disrespectful, but if you want things to change, you should speak up and confront them. Tell them you don't like them making a joke of your personal life.
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Do the same. Find some of their dirty secrets and have ur revenge................muhahahahahahah
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They ain't friends there jokes and using you for them .. Dislike this kind of stuff x
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I would get new friends and make sure the fake friends' graves are ready.
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Sounds like you could use some new friends. Maybe your friends are joking around and don't mean to cause any hostility and ill will, but with friends like that, who needs enemies. I would either altogether ignore their hurtful intrusive remarks or come up with some that shows them how it feels to be treated like that. I wouldn't want these friends as my own, and I certainly wouldn't be hanging out with them, putting up with it either.
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Well, it sounds like they're raggin' on your bf more than you - or about him for sure.
One thing I learned early - be careful what you tell people, 'cause once it's out there you have no control over what people do with it... so if they are joking about bits of your personal life, make sure it's not something you yourself put out there... don't give them ammunition - not even in a denial. If it's getting to much to deal with - put on a smile and say something like- " y'all are gonna have to go on w/o me - I have to meet my (mom. boss. client. -someone they can't argue with) - or even i have to go to a meeting, or to the bathroom- take your stuff and just leave.
And the other thing is to ignore what they say right in front of them, just act casual as if you never heard it, or if possible, laugh as loud as they do... if they don't get a reaction from you, then all the fun is gone for them. You may have to do any or all of this several times . Once you can be with them and it's not an issue any more, then fine. But I agree w/ the others - loose them as friends - friends don't bring you down - they support you. Go hang with people you admire because they are always so upbeat and kind - positive people. You all ready have someone like that in your life - work on those friendships more.
Hope this helps... because the only one you have control over is yourself. So make your life what you want - and if you make a bad choice- learn and go on- and forget it. We have to fail in order to succeed - we don't come in knowing everything. Smile, Do that a lot and you'll get a lot of smiles back. GLLike (1)
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delete them
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Learning to laugh at yourself is a instrumental part of sanity.
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laugh it off for the most part.. I'm pretty open.. a few things, I'd get asserive about. Somethings are just private.
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I don't mind jokig back sometimes, I can be open to things like this..BUT NOT ALL THE effin' time!!!!
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Dont worry at least your friends dont use you as their gay avatar asking me just disgusting questions
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hah, good point ;)
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Just do what i do bring up things they dont like to talk about then the conversation gets interesting
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Best Answer (Chosen by Voting):
Posted by JustPlainBarb Nov 28th, 2012 at 3:37AM
If it bothers you, tell them. If they aren't interested in listening .. then get new friends.
Friends kid each other .. but there's a line that shouldn't be crossed when they know it's hurtful to you.
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