What is a reasonable expectation for how frequently a married couple without children should be making love?

I think it depends on the people involved, really. The key is communication, communication, and more communication.

If two people have unevenly matched sex drives, both have to be willing to work with each other to avoid any building up of resentment. This takes patience and understanding from both sides. And communication cannot be stressed enough.

No one should deny their partner pleasure out of spite, but on the same token no one should put their momentary pleasure before the other person's comfort level and happiness.

this is entirely up to the couple, unfortunately the one who wants it less. marriage or not, forced sex is rape (unless you're a submissive, like me) and you must respect when your partner is not in the mood. that's why God made our arms long enough to **********.

As often as the two of you agree to do so.

No more than two or three times a day.

Love is something divine for me. It happens very rare. If you are married to the same person with whom you share that kind of love and even she loves you same way....Its heaven. Making love in such relationship can happen anytime and any number of times.

I wish there were an answer for this question. Undoubtedly many, many couples would like to know the answer so they can strive to feel "normal."

Reminds me of Woody Allen movie where there therapist interviews each member of the couple separately. The woman says "geez, we have sex all the time, like as often as three times a week!" and then the movie cuts away to her husband saying "it's awful -- we ONLY have sex three times a week!"

I know I had sex more often than I really wanted to, because it made my husband happy. I always got into it after we got going, so I wasn't an unpleasant gift at all. We had sex, you guessed it, a minimum of three times a week, although there were many times we had sex on a daily basis. With kids.

But it is up to you to define normal for you. Sorry not to be more help.

Early morning and late evening on week days, as often as possible on week ends.....

The movie edgargeorge is referring to is Play It Again Sam, one of the best comedies you could hope to see.

With regards to the question, I think quality is always more important than quantity.

A lot.

Better agree to get it while the gettin's good because it sure ain't gonna happen after the kiddies arrive!

Actually the movie is "Annie Hall".
What is reasonable?
There are so many variables,but StudentofUnifyingLife has a good take on it.
As for expectations,the couple would do well to think about what suits them,as opposed to what societal norms tell them should suit them.
Twice a year or twice a day - if you're both happy,it's "reasonable"!

Zero. Sorry if you don't like the answer but I have to confess after being married for nearly 20 years and finding out I was sterile about 7 or 8 years ago. I simply see no logical reason to have sexual intercourse if a child isn't going to be produced.

well...this question is hard to answer. Everyone's sex drives and schedules are different. I would say 3 or 4 times a week. I don't think that is too much or too little. In fact, I think that is manageable. My husband and I (when he isn't deployed) make love sometimes 3 times a day every day of the week. But, that is just us. One of my friends only makes love with her husband on Saturdays. It's different for everyone I suppose.

Two or three times a week sounds sufficient.

I don't think that there's anything reasonable about making love! That's my answer, and I stand by it! :D

Anything from never to ten times a day, every day.

Really, it depends on the couple. Hopefully they are mature enough that they can discuss it with each other.

Never! It should NEVER be expected. This is the WRONG attitude. You need to find freedom before you marry and enslave someone else to your way of thinking. This is simply sad.

Deep sexuality is not very compatible with either reason or expectations. Please spare me from reasonable sex.

Everytime the word "the" is mentioned.