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What is coming off as needy?

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    Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Posted by Vessa Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:39PM

    Different people define it in different ways.
    For some it means any expression of connection to someone else. Those folks think it is strength not to actually need anyone in any way. I knew a guy like this. He actually wrote me a note after we had our first cuddling session. "I just wanted you to know that I really enjoyed being with you and close to you...but that I didn't need it." WHAT?

    For me, it means someone who is possessive of me or my time in certain ways. LIke a friend who gets ticked off because she couldn't get me on the phone to chat for a couple of days. "Where WERE you????" Or like my fiance' who didn't think I needed time to study or to do anything other than be with him. "What? You mean you don't want to see me???" Or, sadly, my grandmother after she had a stroke, who would not be happy about anything. Nothing that anyone did for her was enough.
    To me, "needy" means clingy or demanding. It is unhealthy need.
    But I think that needing other people and wanting to enjoy their presence is quite healthy. For people in love, there is no such thing as "too close". But eventually, most of us need some sort of space- or at least the freedom to have it if we need it. There is a balance.

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  1. chellybelly - 51-55 years old - female

    Reply by chellybelly Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:38PM

    Thats interesting my mother is behaving in the same way after a stroke

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  2. Vessa - 41-45 years old - female

    Reply by Vessa Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:40PM

    I think that is fairly common. Almost a childlike personality. I think some of it comes out of being fearful.

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9 Answers to "What is coming off as needy?"

  1. Sharkattackbate - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by Sharkattackbate Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:24PM

    You ? X

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  2. MikeWinther - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by MikeWinther Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:23PM

    Hanging on too the persons foot as they go for a walk

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  3. WildSpectrumArts - 46-50 years old - female

    Reply by WildSpectrumArts Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:26PM

    lol

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  4. Wigglebottom - 46-50 years old - male

    Posted by Wigglebottom Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:22PM

    If you a always clinging on to your Girlfriend / Boyfriend or always needing to know where that person is and who that person is with.

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  5. hmorel67 - 18-21 years old - male

    Reply by hmorel67 Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:24PM

    Is that bad

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  6. Wigglebottom - 46-50 years old - male

    Reply by Wigglebottom Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:25PM

    It can drive a person insane !

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  7. slimmmerman - 41-45 years old - male

    Posted by slimmmerman Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:34PM

    My last gf wanted to talk on the phone every day for three hours a day and if I didn't... "Well that must mean you don't love me anymore!"
    She wanted to plan everything for the next decade and if I didn't... "Well that must mean you don't love me anymore!"
    She wanted to always know exactly where I was and who I was with and if I didn't tell her... "Well that must mean you don't love me anymore!"

    So I dumped her!

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  8. WildSpectrumArts - 46-50 years old - female

    Posted by WildSpectrumArts Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:26PM

    Excessive questions and excessive sharing of stuff that has no context to the discussion at hand.

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  9. amusedtodeath - 18-21 years old - male

    Posted by amusedtodeath Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:24PM

    allways in the mood.

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  10. TwattyMcCocknoodles - 22-25 years old

    Posted by TwattyMcCocknoodles Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:23PM

    asking what comes off as needy

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  11. Decryption - 31-35 years old - male

    Posted by Decryption Nov 12th, 2012 at 8:22PM

    To give the other person the impression that you need them emotionally.

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