What is your meaning to a "Family" vacation?

Asked By: kitkat823 18-21 3 months ago

My boyfriend hid from me for two weeks that his brothers girlfriend went on a trip with his parents, him, and his brother...yet I was left home. Him and his family kept saying it was a fun "family vacation". I found out the brothers girlfriend went when I stumbled upon her facebook page and saw the photos from the trip...I was hurt of course because I feel like his parents hate me. He also told me that the trip was a surprise to everyone but he then said his brothers girlfriend saved up for this trip...makes me even more suspicious. In my opinion it wasn't a family vacation it was a: family vacation + one of the sons girlfriends which = left out me. I am tempted to ask to look at the photos and ask his parents "I though this was a family vacation?". We have been dating for 2 years and his brother and his girlfriend have been dating for 2 years and a couple months...my head is just screaming "what the hell!" What do you think? And what should I do?

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Posted by hafachick Mar 18th, 2013 at 12:30AM

Maybe his parents don't like you. Maybe your boyfriend didn't want you to go. Its their vacation. They are under no obligation to invite you.

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Reply by kitkat823 Mar 18th, 2013 at 1:30AM

He wanted me to go, he has been talking about taking me to the condo they have at this ski resort (that's where they went) and he has been talking about this for over a year...and his parents do give me the cold shoulder and it makes me wonder if I should end it because of them..
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Reply by hafachick Mar 18th, 2013 at 1:42AM

Maybe he's lying and telling you what he thinks you want to hear. Maybe his parents pressured him into not inviting you. I dated/married my husband and I knew his parents didn't like me. I never felt the need for them to like me. I wasn't marrying them. I don't feel the need for extended family unless I like them as people. It sucks for him holidays, but he wasn't forced into marrying me. He knew what he was doing. The cold shoulders, and silent treatments don't bother me. I actually prefer it because it makes me look like the "good guy". If that's not something you think you could deal with, find someone else.
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