Not to debate your definition of "open-relationship" but the only couples I know who call their relationship "open" are very much in love with their secondary partners. It isn't purely physical. Swingers have non-emotional partners. Poly couples seek love and affection.
More than semantics, the differences are huge in how they affect your primary relationship. In one, there is only one love and other bodies are brought in to expand the physical realm. In the other, there is the shared admission that parties are capable of more than one love simultaneously.
They're not real relationships.
For me, that's dating, not a relationship.
That used to be called not going steady, & so a mutual agreement would have to be met. Honesty is always best.
aint my thang
I wish I could be into open relationships because my husband has that mentality but I root for the mono team. I'm a die hard fan. We tried it for a year and I hated it... the jealousy, the feeling of being left out, and a host of other feelings that don't sit well at all with me. I hear it works for some people but I guess I'm not built for it.
I find it works well for me and my girlfriend, we are basically best friends who share everything but we both enjoy other things sexually. It helps that we do most things together, I love her to pieces and that is reciprocated but we both like to explore other sexual things but usually together. Hope this helps, honesty is vital in such a relationship
I agree with majority of the answers on here. As long as it is ok with every one in the relationship. I am in an open relationship, and my only rule is as long as my loves tell me what's going on and are completely honest.
Don't say I'm just being experimental because I'm 'young' or 'just trying to figure myself out' or something like that.
Fine for others I suppose.
So basically..you want the stability of a relationship while being about to sleep around? No, just..why bother? The whole point of a relationship is to remain loyal to one person that you may want to marry.
I've know a few people who claim it works well for them but It would never work for my hubs and I.....We like the bond we have with being exclusive!!
I started to see this guy then later found out he had a girlfriend. he said she "didn't care if he screwed around as long as she didn't know about it" but strange enough she hated it being called an open relationship. Being apart of that, it felt unfair and frustrating. To me an open relationship just seems like a lie you use when things are falling apart and neither person wants to deal with it.
I personally couldn't do it, but if they can ok cool-go for it.
So, the guy who was using it as an excuse for sex - who also lied to you and his girlfriend - completely jaded what WE'RE talking about here - something that has nothing to do with what he was playing at.
Yea, that was gonna be my first answer, lol! "For men."
They never work long term. It's usually only "open" for one person.
"never" hmmm? I doubt that.
Going back to the seventies, I knew of several. None are still in existence; and they all ended badly. I don't think it's normal or natural to share in this way. Someone always gets hurt.
Just like relationships that aren't open, communication is the key. Lay down good ground rules, and if either partner is too jealous to maintain, shut it down.
NO F'ING WAY! , not for me anyway.
if everyone is ok with it, then its ok. As long as you have open communication and understanding, then you can do whatever you want with your relationship.