You should do the dishes more!
what should be more what..? pleasurable? exciting? boring? annoying? how can i answer the question when i don't know what it is asking...?
there you go, now you actually formulated a whole question and not just bits and pieces of one.. i think most woman would prefer oral sex, the dishes can always wait.. personally i don't mind doing the dishes myself, it is a simple, mindless, peaceful activity. i cannot go down on myself, though. nor do the dishes elicit such strong, pleasurable feelings..
love and caring, sure. but it should be something that both parties find enjoyable.. you wash the dishes for her because you love and care. but you go down on her because you want to in addition to loving and caring, it is exciting and pleasurable for you too not just for her...