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What should I do? I really need some help please!?

So the story goes like this.. around march she broke up with me.. she said she needed some space, recover her personal life etc. The next two months we didn't talk at all. After that we started going out, but i told her i still love her and wanted to be with her. She kept rejecting me.. and telling me that things will happen naturally. After some time i got tired of the whole thing and told her that it had no sense if she didn't wanted to be with me at all. Finally she told me she wanted to go out with me with the purpose or idea of getting back together. In other words start dating in a real way i suppose.. She told me that i needed to give her real space.. and things will get better eventually.. the idea of dating was great for me..When we go out we hug, we kiss, we are great together. When i try telling her i love you she just ignores it or gives me a kiss. I don't know what to do, i don't want more time to pass... I just want to be with her.. I love her so much..what should i do?

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You said it yourself, pretty much: you like the idea of dating. And really? It seems like you like the idea much better than you like her. She's just a vehicle, but dating is the trip you want. Here's what I see: the vehicle sucks. It's def not the right one for you. It's so clear that she's not into you, but again, she likes the dating thing, too. That's why she goes back and forth. You're available. You always are. She can break up with you and get back with you as she pleases. So it's now Option Time:

You can either a) play the same game, by her rules, and understand that this is going to end and not in the way you want it to, or b) enjoy everything that you like about it now, learn what you can, and look elsewhere for a better vehicle that will take you further on down the road.

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SummerWind18	Posted Aug 7th, 2009 at 7:54AM Back off. Give her space. Just because you love her doesn't mean you need to be clingy, spending all your time on her. She wants you each to have your own life. You think it is more serious than she does. Just don't take it so seriously. Have fun, DO stuff together rather than just spending all your time holed up in your apartment saying nothing of interest other than "love you" and always kissing. You got to eat, work, do stuff. Don't act like you will be together forever. What you are doing is the equivalent of proposing marriage on the first date to her and calling her 20 times every day. Rated: +2Vote for this!
kowen	Posted Aug 7th, 2009 at 4:19AM If you love something,set it free. If it loves you,it will come back. Rated: +2Vote for this!
pinketmary	Posted Aug 7th, 2009 at 4:18AM sad, but i guess sometimes we jus have to accept when some one is jus not that into us. i understand how u feel but trust me, u don want to be caught in a relationship where ur constantly pushin. it's got to be two way. Rated: +2Vote for this!
mariellarose	Posted Aug 7th, 2009 at 12:47AM If you still love her, and she wants to date again, go for it. I see no issue. Just be wary that she might not be ready to tell you she loves you. Don't stress too much, and don't pressure her. If she feels it, she'll tell you eventually. Rated: +2Vote for this!
BitterSweetL	Posted Aug 7th, 2009 at 4:27AM This is really going to sound like "game playing," but you may find by giving her space, playing it cool, and by not always being available and jumping at her every whim, she may find more of an interest in you. I've seen it so often before with my friends. It does seem like she is taking you for granted, assuming that you will always be there, but don't let her walk all over you. Gotta have some respect for yourself, because you deserve true happiness. Give it time, and you'll figure out what you need to do. It is possible she isn't sure, and doesn't want to let you go, nor commit to you, so you're kind of stuck in limbo. Very difficult stuff. Good luck. Rated: +1Vote for this!
sonu222	Posted Aug 7th, 2009 at 4:18AM STOP TRYING TO IMPRESS HER ALL THE TIME!!!! The more you try, more she will lose interest in you!! keep your self busy when u not see her! stop showing her u love her too much just be funny and nice try to hold back your feelings until she talks to u about it :-). Some girls LOVE BAD boys!! stop being a *** all the time and be a man ** and run away lol hope u understand. Shes giving you hint! she do like you but you are not doing anything to make her RUSH to you!! Rated: +1Vote for this!
prettykimber	Posted Aug 7th, 2009 at 12:53AM sometimes i need some help.....i dont know what to do.....i have alot of problems in my life..... Rated: +1Vote for this!
HeartofHearts	Posted Aug 7th, 2009 at 1:03AM it's hard when you care for someone so much and the feelings aren't as strong on her end-- but the only way is to be patient and let her be free to have her timeline. that is the compassionate thing to do. ...and, why not fill your time with other things and people... even with patience, you never know what she will ultimately decide. don't count on her. at the same time, be positive and keep it light around her-- try to have fun! Rated: +1Vote for this!
MissMyMarine08	Posted Aug 7th, 2009 at 1:07AM ok, whatever you do...do not smother her! She said she wants space. If you show her less attention she WILL come to you...you have to pretend that you dont care. Trust me. If you've been saying I love you to her and not getting an I love you back then why would you keep telling her? You're looking for the same response back. Don't scare her away. She might get annoyed with you trying SO hard to be with her. Give her space, give her time..let things happen as they should. Don't push anything. And if it's meant to happen, it will. You can't force it. Rated: +1Vote for this!
mzdivine	Posted Aug 7th, 2009 at 1:31AM LET HER GO!....Do you want to be charged with Stalking? She has made it clear she doesn't want you! Rated: +1Vote for this!
violetaphrodite	Posted Aug 7th, 2009 at 1:06PM She does not love you. If she did, she would say it back to you. You love her and she knows it, so she uses you for whatever selfish motives she has. This is how a woman acts when she couldn't give a **** what happens to the annoying guy she's dating until someone better comes along. I can guarantee that this one sided pseudo-relationship will end badly for one of you and that one is YOU. Just stop going out with her and find another woman to date who likes you and tells you so. Rated: +1Vote for this!

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