What should I do? My husband had a missed call at 1 am. It is nobody I know.?

do you truly know every friend your hubby has, and every number they have? someone could have just gotten a new cell.

on the other hand, if there is more to this story, i always tell people to trust when something feels wrong. our instincts can be powerfully helpful if we let them!

Call them back to see who that is Ask him about the phone calls.

My answer is not terribly different from many of the others you received. The fact that you are suspicious based on a single telephone call is a strong indicator that there is a serious problem that needs to be addressed. It indicates a possible problem, either in your relationship with your husband, or in your emotional health.

As others asked, is there other evidence that he is being unfaithful? Examine your intuition closely and determine whether there is any evidence: Uncharacteristically long hours at work, unexpected trips, changes in his behavior, unexplained charges on bank accounts or credit cards, new found interest in his appearance or dress are some of the typical signs that something may be going on. Do not jump to conclusions however, especially if the signals are not strong, recent, and a change from his prior norm.

You also need to carefully examine yourself. Are there things about you that lead you to unfounded suspicion: recent depression, illness, newly started medications, other changes in your life that may be affecting your emotional health?

After you have examined your own thoughts and the evidence, critically and carefully, you need to talk with your husband about your thoughts and concerns. Most marital problems are a result of poor communication between the partners. Unless the evidence is strongly against him, do not accuse -- communicate, which means both talking and listening.

Finally, depending on the results of your investigation, self-examination, and communication with your husband, you need to seek help: either couples counseling or a doctor or personal counselor. Don't wait. Do not allow your fears and suspicion to grow and fester. Do something about it now, before it is too late. Unfounded suspicion will drive you and your husband apart almost as quickly as will infidelity and can actually result in pushing your partner to seek solace outside of you marriage, creating the very thing you fear. Get help.

At a strange hour i would guess its a wrong number..
Maybe make a note of the number somewhere,.under a heading such as "wrong numbers" ,.just in case:)

I have to chime in here. One am, has happened before, and youve seen the number on the phone bill?

if you have the money, hire a private investigator and find out for real. HE WILL LIE TO YOU IF HE IS DOING WHAT YOU THINK HE IS. if it is a one time incident and you DONT think hes foolin around, then yeah id let it go, but as you said, number keeps popping into your attention, dont ignore it.
Something this serious? i would spend the money and hire someone to find out whats really going on.

Call the number back. A number you don't know IS a reason to be suspicious.

This happened to me recently, we ended up having a major row about it. I called the number and it turned out that it was a wrong number. However if you are suspicious, like I was, then do you really trust him?

There could easily be a simple explanation but ask youself if there are other signs that he is cheating. Good luck

I could have been a wrong number. Don't be paranoid. Just ask him.

While a 1 am phone call is a bit of an odd time....it is a bit far reaching unless you have good reason to believe that it indicates he is doing something on the low. I would suggest talking it over with him in casual conversation and see how he explains it......Good luck!

I'd say go with ur instincts do you think he'd cheat or can u trust him?

i'd just ask him about it. it could have been a wrong number or a friend drunk dialing on a different person's phone.

If you don't trust him - Have a friend call it and see who answers.

If you trust him - Ignore it.

I'd be checking a little deeper into that! Especially if this number has come up before.

CALL the number. If it's a woman who answers, he's almost assuredly having an affair. No business contact would call in the middle of the night. Could even be an INTERNET relationship...someone he corresponds with online, calling to say HI. Confront him immediately. The only legitimate calls that come in at that hour are emergency calls. When it happened at my house...yep, it was a wife, looking for her husband...found out MY former wife had been having an affair with him. Believe nothing...do your own investigation. Liars abound in that area....and they're GOOD, cuz they know you WANT to believe your spouse. Be suspicious...your suspicions are likely correct.