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What should I do now?

I have a close friend that I have developed more serious feelings for, I tried to tell him how I feel but wasn't exactly clear, I guess. Now he's stopped talking to me, so I have no way to clear this up. What should I do?? I'm devastated that I am losing him from my life...
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kazwaz1977
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Try not to worry too much. You may have took him a little by surprise & he's giving you a wide berth while he gets his head around it - it doesn't necessarily mean that he has rejected you. Give him a couple days to absorb this new information, then when you get chance, without it being forced strike up a conversation. Take it slowly - if he knows how you feel let him make the first move next time. If he hasn't made his move in about a month, i'd just accept that maybe you're better off just as friends. If you really have strong feelings, perhaps it'd be best at that point to have a break from each other's company - just so there's no confusion or mixed signals. Hope it works out for you - if not, don't worry - plenty more fish in the sea. Good luck x
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baker998
Posted Aug 10th, 2009 at 9:12AM
Maybe you did make yourself clear. It could be that he is not ready to get serious in a relationship and is pulling away.
The key to a good relationship is communication on all levels. If he is unable to communicate with you... it may be that this relationship that you want will not turn out the way you imagine it to be
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lanaetx
Posted Aug 10th, 2009 at 9:06AM
Write to him...dont let it go if it is something you feel this strongly about. I always think its better to write..I can say more and am better with words on paper. Just be honest with him ....its the only way you can be honest with yourself. You wont feel right until you do and if it doesnt work out...you tried!!! If he was truely a good friend he will be compasionate enough to help you through this.
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cjpsf5
Posted Aug 10th, 2009 at 7:32AM
Do what your heart is telling you...
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Kirst619
Posted Aug 10th, 2009 at 7:38AM
I was in the same situation.
Maybe he's embarrassed about the whole thing..i know confessing your feelings to a close friend is hard..but sometimes you just gotta take the risk and always remain friends no matter what happends.
I think you should try telling him how you feel...either by online , through a friend or a letter because if you dont you will regret it when he is going out with some other girl when he could have been with you.
good luck ^^
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ecpc
Posted Aug 10th, 2009 at 7:39AM
I guess you need to try for a cool,.calm,.collected approach...Often its good to get things out in the open....Laugh about it,.and realise that many friendships are consolidated by the ups and downs.....So in that way,..its all on track....Many people feel one way,...but by necessity,..live slightly less than their dreams...Go easy on yourself:)
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pugpin
Posted Aug 10th, 2009 at 7:46AM
If he won't talk to you, just leave it alone and move on.
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46firstlove
Posted Aug 10th, 2009 at 8:35AM
First you need to realize that he probably did know something since he's not talking to you but you should clear it up. I would suggest that if its too hard to say to his face, maybe you should go card shopping and mail it to him. Make sure it says something about how your friendship has grown into what it is now and how grateful you are for him. Then only bad thing about not doing it face to face is that he may not reply. At least you will know by his body language or what he says whether or not he feels the same way. Good luck...I hope it works out for you
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SeriouslySappy
Posted Aug 10th, 2009 at 9:52AM
I'm a letter writer so I'd try that. I can always find the words to speak more clearly on paper than in my voice. Perhaps he misunderstood something and you can clarify that in a note. After that, it's up to him and at least you gave it a good try. Good luck : )
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