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Drop the present issue. The older sister may be going through a rough time and just not be communicative. Maybe she didn't like the videos. Maybe she didn't like the letter. So what? She knows her sister still love her. As for the lack of enthusiasm, you can't fix it. <br />
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I think the world of my younger sister. When she criticized a book I had written, I was crushed. Her criticism wasn't intended as being mean or hurtful. As one of my readers, she was giving me constructive criticism. The hurt was mine. Me. It was for me to fix, not her. It was a lack of self esteem and confidence within me that only I could fix. Not her. Not my wife. Not my friends.<br />
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The real issue is your friends lack of self esteem. (Or possibly your lack of self esteem being projected onto her.) You don't feel better by focusing on real or imagined slights. When I am slighted, I accepted that we all have bad days, and that we say and do things that hurt without intending to. With my sister, I focused on her good intentions. <br />
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You feel better by being understanding, getting involved with life, and focusing on the good in life. <br />
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The best way to help your friend is to remind her that we all have bad days, and that her sister loves her. Then drop it.

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Woa!..your reply was like bullets from a machine gun..firing non-stop (jst kidding)...but seriously,ur words have power and thoughts logic..so i really appreciate ur answer..thank you..plus, ur name "olddream",is really unique and nice

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Sorry about the machine gun. I try not to, but I can come across a little strong sometimes. Thanks for the comment on my name.

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