I'm married so that would stop me :) Wouldn't want to give some dude the wrong idea. I do enjoy looking though. My only "flirting" would probably just me taking second looks. Or looking for a couple seconds too long.
the fact that if they flirt, they might end up in a stall sucking me off.
Often a little wink (as you say) invites far more attention then anything we had intended. For example, many years ago I was at a club having a good time and a girl was going around passing out bubble gum. I wound up with a bunch of it and put one of the wrapped pieces in the hoodie part of a cute guys sweatshirt. He noticed almost immediately and came to talk to me. (Good so far...) But suddenly he just leaned over and licked my neck. I was shocked. This is why I am very careful about "liitle winks" Hopefully this experience is rare!
Well, some women flirt all the time...so perhaps you haven't met those yet.
The women that i know who don't "flirt"...myself included....I think that we generally want the guy to approach us first- though not with a cheap "flirt". Whether it's with a smile, eye contact, or simply starting a conversation. Until I actually know someone, flirting feels like false advertising to me. I mean, how do I know a guy is someone I'd actually like until I actually KNOW him? What if I end up flirting with a jerk or a guy who has a girlfriend? Or worse, some guy who is a stalker or serial killer? What if I flirt with someone that I later get to know and dislike who really takes my flirts seriously?
Maybe I'm a rare breed, but I know a few other women who feel this same way. We want to actually MEET someone. Become friends or get to know that guy as a person. THEN, if we find them attractive, the flirty stuff starts. And I suppose I'm old fashioned, because if a guy approaches me and starts out with obvious flirting, then I get turned off. Flirting is easy, and it's cheap. For the most part, I don't engage in it, unless it is very "light" or I am dating someone. Then I can be a heavy flirt; but in those cases, the groundwork has been laid. I know enough about the guy to know I'm attracted to him and to make sexu.al overtures, etc., and I know the feeling is mutual, so it's fun.
For a guy to make the effort to come to know me- that's the thing that I'm looking for.
I have always lacked the confidence to make the first move. When I was single the GUY had to START the flirting.
if you want ladies to flirt with you then you need to give them something to flirt with, be open, funny, give them a reason to reply, closed conversation is such a killer,
when they are married: )
Ugly sleazy guys stop girls from 'flirting a bit.'