What the best way to relax and get away from a 1yr old, 4yr. old, and a husband that need you for everything?

Seriously, give yourself one day a week. Do you have friends with small children? You might consider setting up a "mother's day out" program. This is where you agree to watch your friend's kids for a day while they take time for themselves and then they reciprocate the favor. If that doesn't work, leave them with your husband or hire a babysitter... It's just one day a week; but think about it: One day a week, every week, for yourself. You deserve it and your family will be stronger for it because you will be refreshed and in a better mood and they learn how to cope without you in small doses.
Good luck... I hope you do this for yourself.

GJ

Hire a babysitter once a week for a few hours. But, honestly, you got married and made children, did you not get the memo that your life would be over after those things??

Manicure, Pedicure - relaxing, quiet and fun!

I completely agree with the two above posters---many years ago when my family was young--I had a wonderful friend who used to tell me---do something for yourself--I didn't listen--my thing for myself was my job---when my youngest turned 13 I hit a wall--she didn't "want me" anymore--didn't need me like she had--I was lost--absolutely lost--I cried and cried--thought--what do I do now? It took me a few years but I learned--now it's your turn--go for walks--go visiting--take trips--do things for you---now I recommend to young mothers--take some time for YOU-stay in touch with YOU--

Let me know when you figure that one out! I have a 17 month year old, a almost 4 year old, a husband and I am 26 weeks pregnant!! (Not so good bc, this pregnancy) haha.

I strongly recommend a gym. Some even offer a daycare room for the kids.

You have to leave the house for this, as even the bathtub will no longer be a get away. Rediscover old hobbies, go to the library, have a girls night out, or a night out by yourself, just make sure hubby knows raising the kids is a thing both of you do together, and you need your time out of the house without the kids too.

One note of caution - Dads seldom realize the depth of focus little ones demand. The silly guys will take on "watching" the kids and then decide to change the oil on the car or watch the game. We all know that's not going to happen! And, if it does - the kids will be running wild - so, some careful advance information sessions might be in order. LOL

a sleeping tablet or................ come to my house......;)

live kids with husand and go to the spa :)

Your husband doesn't need you for everything. He's a grown man. Four year olds are quite capable of expressing what they want and need, and are actually very good interpreters for toddlers, too. I'm sure they will manage for a couple of hours without you. Things might not be done the exact way you would have done them, but no harm-no foul.

Go have a dinner with a girl friend or even by yourself. Relax for a couple of hours, watch a movie...anything that reminds you that you are still a woman and not just a mom/wife. "You" don't cease to be when you have kids.

Personally, I leave our tot with her dad at home, and I have a dinner with a girl friend about once a week. We have some good food, a couple of drinks, vent, and laugh. This weekend, I'm going for a massage.

Disappear for a couple of hours and turn off your phone.

ear phones....nice music....scented candles....and EP

Calgon.

Tell husband to take the kids for a day out. They could go to a movie, or a park, and then a McDonalds stop, etc, etc. then you do what you want to.

Calgon take me away! Okay that would be a brief, cheap, but surprisingly soothing way. The way my wife does it with our twin 2 year olds is her and her best friend gather at a hair salon or 'spa' every few months with a big group of girls and just 'girlie out' for an afternoon. Although in my own defense she tells me I'm a wonderful husband and father because I DON'T need her for everything and do my best to give her a 'sleep in' day nearly every Sunday (I usually get Saturday) where I not only take care of the boys... I take them out of the house right after breakfast and we don't come back until lunch time.